AIBU about period blood (warning) at work on toilet (not mine!)

[HelloBoys]

I work in a small office with another woman.

Whenever she has her period she leaves trails of bright red blood on the toilet seat. I usually use wet wipes (cleaners have some in the drawer outside the toilet) to clear it up.

She also complains loudly that "her womb is falling out" when she is on. I can ignore her comment but the blood is nasty but how can I mention this to her?

I always check the toilet seat if I'm on and wipe it. The smears here are large, across the seat.

what can I say to her? would YOU say anything to her?

Sorry Miss Milbanke, just saw you beat me to it with a similar posting.

Maybe people stand on the loo seat because they want to flush themselves down to the Ministry of Magic HQ.

Laminated sign is what I'd go for if she's a bully. Could she pin it on you?

Do cleaners go in there? Cause I was dodo thinking you could send an email to your boss cc-ing her as his pa saying: we have a terrible problem in the loo xyz. Is it possible we could address this with the cleaners? It's really distressing. I mean - it's passive aggressive but small offices are terrible when you have to confront.

We have a sign of the back of our loo doors because of dirty gits.

"We have to share these facilities. Please leave them as you would wish to find them"

Sounds like she pulls out tampon and brings it out in front (to dispose of in bin?) and it drips. My SIL did it in my loo once (except she flushed it! ), but it is a dark wood seat and genuinely don't think she realised. And yes, being perimenopausal can give you horrendously heavy periods sometimes three in a month! for you to look forward to!

Menstrual blood is not disgusting. She is however being thoughtless by not clearing up her own mess.

It's not disgusting, but leaving it on a communal toilet seat is disgusting.

I also had visions of a full stand, with neck crooked a bit due to low ceilings
Stop, I am cracking up laughing!
Back to OP, jeez, that is vile. Is there another toilet e.g on another floor that you could use, and let her wallow...

I wouldn't send an e-mail. If she complained about it it could rebound on you as you bullying her. The laminated sign possibly but as she sounds verycodd and if it's only the 2 of you who use this lavatory I think I'd be wary of that also.

Sorry I think you might just have to resort to wipes and a packet of disposable latex gloves.

IABVU I know but LMAO at this thread!

I'd use another loo. . If there isn't another loo then I would wait for it to happen then speak to her about it. Make sure she knows you are frustrated about it but I would be polite IYSWIM

I would ask her to go and clean it up.

I understand how it happens if she uses a Mooncup and there is no sink in the toilet cubicle but that doesn't mean she can't clean up afterwards.

YukKy

No other loo apart from the gents.

No she doesn't use a Mooncup.

She's one of these women who if she wants to can go into great detail about her IBS.

Kooth - the bullying side of her, well I don't KNOW if she would tell me to clean it up.

BUT I just know she'd come down on me like "You're making a fuss out of nothing HelloBoys".

And she has a huge sign in the office that says "The One Who is Always Right".

She will argue the toss about anything.

Hey ho next time this happens I will just mention it to her. She now works in an upstairs office (with no separate toilets) so it could be easy for me to say something, non confrontational.

If after me saying something it doesn't work then I will speak to boss, put up a sign and buy some wet wipes out of petty cash and leave in toilet.

that is grim!

If she is nearing the menopause she could be "flooding" but that doesn't excuse not cleaning it up.

But cleaning someone eless blood up is not something the OP should be doing. In my workplace this would mean calling in specialist cleaners to do so

And I can't spell

Frankly I'd tell her to go back in and clean it up. First time privately, if there is a second time it would be on front of HR or your immediate boss.

Forgot to add - filthy bitch!

yep OneSleep I'm doing this next time.

AFAIK she is not flooding or anything like that, she gets heavy periods but whether due to menopause I don't want to know.

If for whatever reason in my own house I drip blood I clear it up but then again that's cos it's only me! obvs she doesn't care or has an eyesight problem.

It's technically a biohazard.

Blood is potentially infectious, so every time you use this toilet uncleaned/ clean this up, you are exposing yourself to HIV/Hep etc etc etc.

As the HR head, it wold be her job to tell you NOT to do this - because of the above. Your own blood is one thing. This is the blood of a stranger, in effect, and you don't know her health status, (nor is she required to disclose it) but there isn't an alternative facility for you to use, therefore, you are being asked to potentially compromise your health every time you use this facility.

It really needs more than just a wet-wipe tbh. Take a look at what schools/doctors surgeries have to do with a blood spill.

Flag the health issue to your manager. You don't have to name and shame, just - next time it happens - send 'someone has bled in the ladies bathroom, leaving blood on the toilet seat. As I know this was not me, could proper cleaning be arranged on health grounds, as this is from an unknown source and is therefore an infection risk.'

Hopefully, that'll prompt some action. If - God forbid - you did acquire an infection following you making Management aware of the issue with no result, the liability for the Company would potentially be huge! H&S requires the provision of suitable, sanitary facilities. These aren't.

I'd not email, I'd just have a quiet word first asking her to pop back to the cubical.

I would not email either.