DP thinks I was quite unreasonable.

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DS 3 has been off nursery with diahoerra. He was on the potty while I was hanging out the washing. Suddenly I heard this cry of "Mummy". I dashed in. He had dropped Kwazii's tiny hat in his potty. Kwazii had come from an Octonauts magazine.

I thought "I love you, but I don't love you that much" and explained that it was gone now. Queue poorly boy meltdown and tears.

DP thinks I was totally unreasonable and I should have fished it out.

As not to drip feed, I am 25 weeks pregnant.

Did DH offer to fish about in the poo?

Nope. Not unreasonable at all. There has to be a line somewhere, and if that was yours, that's your decision!

I would have fished it out and washed and disinfected it. Pretty sure being pregnant wouldn't change that, I did the cat littrr tray while whole pregnant wearing gloves and that is much worse than toddler poo heakth risk wise.

I would have fished it out and washed and disinfected it. Pretty sure being pregnant wouldn't change that, I did the cat littrr tray while whole pregnant wearing gloves and that is much worse than toddler poo heakth risk wise.

I would have fished it out and washed and disinfected it. Pretty sure being pregnant wouldn't change that, I did the cat littrr tray while whole pregnant wearing gloves and that is much worse than toddler poo heakth risk wise.

A queue of boys having a meltdown. I couldnt think of anything worse.

It it had been one of DS's treasured possessions then I would have put on some disposable gloves and got it out.......for some crap from a magazine, no way!!!

Tell DP it is not too late and then direct him to the man hole with a torch and shovel :)

Not at all unreasonable!

He said he would have done it if he was there. Not really tempted to leave it there til 6pm when he gets home from work.

Kwazii's hat has since gone to meet the dead goldfish of London.

Hmm must get disposable gloves for potty toy emergency situations.

YANBU at all

You know you could just make Kwazii another hat? DS is a massive Octonauts fan so I would know...

Not unreasonable at all, especially as DS had diarrhoea and you are pg. Cheap stuff off magazines is disposable really so not worth fishing out of poo. Perhaps promise DS another magazine next time you go shopping to make up?

If the toy was in the empty potty I'd fish it out and soak it in bleach for a few hours. If went into the potty with diarrhoea-y poo, then no chance. Down the loo it goes.

but................. would he have really fished it out ??

You know your own husband.

would he have?

I'd have fished it out, but then I remember realising I had dd's poo on my face (having changed a particularly nasty nappy, getting poo on my hands, then wiping my face) and not being that bothered. I'd probably have used a plastic spoon if I'd had one to hand then soaked it in anti bac gel.

It's only poo!

yuck - no

I think he might have.

I'm having a flash back to being on a holiday resort, i went down from the accommodation to meet DP and DS by the pool and DS had done a poo in his swim nappy and DP had him on the manicured lawn trying to change in a panic and he was flinging wet poo all around the placE in the act. He's not quite cool as a cucumber, just not bothered

YANBU at all and to be honest I don't know why your DP would even take a stance on such minutae. I wouldn't if I wasn't there at the exact time it happened! I would just say 'oh dear' or something if ds mentioned it afterwards!

It's shit not the whole insides of a rotting corpse!! And your toddlers shit at that.

It's your fault anyway, if you'd have toilet trained him it would have gone for ever and this discussion wouldn't be happening

All you people who get a poo on your hands when you wipe, do you then bleach your hands for hours? Course not!!

YABU, it's only poo, and your childs poo at that. If your child was a bit younger (in nappies) you'd have to wipe that off his bottom/legs etc. If you had no disposable gloves in the house a nappy bag/doggy poo bag could have been used to fish it out and tied until your Dh got home to wash it etc. Even a baby wipe could have been used to pick it out and wrapped for Dhs attention.
Sorry!

No nappy bags left, no dog and no baby wipes left.

Maybe in a couple of months - but not the dog.

DS was on the toilet but decided the potty was just the right size for him, I'm cool with that.

You would really leave it in a bag for your DP? Eeuhh.

No YANBU - it's just a hat off a magazine toy, not a someone else said, his most treasured possession.

It's a life lesson - sometimes things get lost when you drop them in gross places.