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to be feeling a teeny bit broody?

17 replies

TheresLotsOfFarmyardAnimals · 28/01/2014 15:50

For the majority of ds's life I've been chanting a mantra of 'i am NEVER doing this again.'

I deal with sleep deprivation terribly and am not a particularly natural mother. As a result I have a wonderful list of reasons as to why ds should remain an only child. Mainly financial but also my sanity during the early 12 months, that and time dedicated to ds.

So why is it that I'm surrounded by pregnant women and babies and am having the occasional twinge of broodiness?

Can you please knock some sense into me for my unreasonable feelings?

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TheresLotsOfFarmyardAnimals · 28/01/2014 15:52

ds is particularly awesome as a toddler. He was just a tad high needs as a younger model

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absentmindeddooooodles · 28/01/2014 16:08

No help as im exactly the same!

Ds is 2.9 and still does not sleep. He never keeps still, has 500 tantrums a day. Is still a complete velcro child. I have not been to the toilet on my own since he was born. I am not a natiral mother at all. Its actually a wonder hes still alive. Obviously love him to bits though:)

But then I see all the pregnant women and squidgy newborns and thibk...awwwwwww.

And then I remember how ill pregnancy made me......and labour. Bollocks do you forget the pain!!!!!!!

curiousuze · 28/01/2014 16:15

Oh, this thread is for me!!

Hated HATED pregnancy. Labour was a 3 day horror and I will never forget the terrible pain. DS is only just starting to sleep through at 14 months. I look 25 years older than I did 2 years ago. I am fat as fuck. We have no money.

And yet...

PollyIndia · 28/01/2014 16:21

Well, I loved being pregnant and the birth was as good as it can be pushing a baby out of your nether regions. The first 12 weeks of motherhood was very hard but since, I'd say it has been a pretty wonderful experience - not always easy, but better than I could ever have imagined.
I am single though and have been since before I found out I was pregnant with 15 month old DS.
And I think going out and having a second when I am not in a relationship would be a very selfish thing. And lots of hard work. So it's not going to happen.
But god, I feel so broody!!

Chopsypie · 28/01/2014 16:22

I'm in a similarly situation. 2 kids, 17 months apart. I work full time, DH is self employed. Money is tight and we fill our house.

Newborns bore me and I hated pregnancy. Had serious complications after he last c section

But one of my friends is pregnant. I'm feeling a bit green eyed....

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TheresLotsOfFarmyardAnimals · 28/01/2014 16:55

Glad to know I'm not alone in the unreasonable thoughts! Pregnancy was worry free but I did feel very sick until 16 weeks. Labour was great but the first year was torture at times.

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magimedi · 28/01/2014 17:02

I'm in my late 50's & it doesn't take much to make me broody - so YANBU.

I'm even broodier for a GC - are you listening, DS?? Grin

To be fair, DS & DIL said last year that they want to start a family 'soon' so I have been the 'soul of tact' & lip buttoning ever since, but every time they ring I always wonder if I am going to hear some news.

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TheresLotsOfFarmyardAnimals · 29/01/2014 21:05

There's no hope for me then magi. I'll just accept my state of mild broodiness and encourage memories of extreme boredom!

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aquashiv · 29/01/2014 21:52

Go for it its a million times easier the second time around

TodayIsAGoodDay · 29/01/2014 22:02

I'll join in with this Smile

It took me until my mid thirties to decide I wanted children. I wasn't in the least bit maternal and the thought of giving birth terrified me. Pregnancy was ok (ish), birth was horrendous and dd was a won't just go the f*&k to sleep 'high-needs' kind of baby. She's now 15 months and I'm desperate for another.
Haven't broken it to dh yet though . .

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TheresLotsOfFarmyardAnimals · 30/01/2014 11:53

How does your dh feel about more today? Mine is like a bloody hen with his broodiness but I've been rather outspoken in my refusal to have anymore.

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hells456 · 30/01/2014 13:38

My daughter arrived at 28 weeks and only 818g. It took me 6 months to recover physically and she was in hospital for months and we had years of hospital visits and tests afterwards. She has always been a rather delicate flower and quite needy. She is just so special and an amazing child as well as beautiful, sweet and very clever. We thought there was no way we could ever love another child half as much as our perfect daughter (and I didn't think I could bear going through those early years again). We swore never again.

Then the broodiness hit. It took a few years to convince DH though and we finally had our son when she was six. It was completely different, he was nearly 5 pounds, slept through the night from a week old, rarely cried and has been the very epitome of light and happiness. He's six now and the whole world is fantastic through his eyes. I've never met anyone so cheerful and loving.

Go on, have another... Grin

plentyofsoap · 30/01/2014 14:22

It is so much easier second time around. Promise.

Lagoonablue · 30/01/2014 14:24

Ha! You have your second to right the mistakes you made first time round!,,,,Smile

KayHarker1 · 30/01/2014 14:27

YABU. But broodiness is, imo. I say that after four. I was wildly U. They are worth it, really, but flaming heck, no more!

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TheresLotsOfFarmyardAnimals · 30/01/2014 14:29

I know you're all lying. The second will never ever sleep! Colic will last forever! I will never have waistline or a holiday again

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TodayIsAGoodDay · 30/01/2014 20:08

TheresLotsOfFarmyardAnimals, we haven't talked about it yet. I'm betting that he doesn't know that I'd like another one. I've no idea what he might say.

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