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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To be annoyed!

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M0naLisa · 27/01/2014 22:46

DS2 has to wear glasses in school and at home when watching tv/playing on tablet/reading
We picked them up on Thursday and he took them to school Friday and brought them home.

Today he took his glasses to school, all was fine.

Half way home I got a text from my friend who's little boy is in the same class as DS2. The text said
'A glasses incident today then :-/'
And I thought 'eh?'

I asked DS2 where his glasses were and he said at school in his drawer so I asked him why he didn't bring them home and he said 'because their broken' in a matter of fact you should know this mother
I asked him how they were broken and what happened.

During activate this morning so around 9am. He took his glasses off and put them ON THE FLOOR
Therefore 2 children ended up standing on them and both lenses coming out of them and them getting back!

The teacher never told me and if friend hadn't of told me I wouldn't have known until tomorrow! Day 2 and they are broken already!!!
Aibu to be annoyed at DS2 and the school
Ds - for not telling me straight away and for not keeping them on or putting them in the case
The school - for not letting me know.

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M0naLisa · 27/01/2014 22:47

Should say DS2 is 5

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M0naLisa · 27/01/2014 22:47

6 in March

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YouTheCat · 27/01/2014 22:49

Get him some new ones or get them fixed and then get one of those glasses elastic/string attachment things so he doesn't have to take them off.

He's 5. He's going to break them from time to time.

NoSquirrels · 27/01/2014 22:49

YANBU to be annoyed. Glasses are expensive and a pain to replace/repair.

But he's only 5, and doesn't know better yet about looking after them properly.

But school should have told you - did they realise what had happened?

Salmotrutta · 27/01/2014 22:51

Well, in a busy classroom, possibly several things happening at once, I'd imagine it's quite easy for the teacher to just genuinely forget to say.

The broken glasses could have been one of about twenty incidents involving lost books/squabbling/minor illnesses etc.

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M0naLisa · 27/01/2014 22:52

Yes Ds said his teacher knew about it. Yes I'm going to get them fixed in tomorrow. I'll take them back to specsavers, hoping them can do it in a few days.

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Salmotrutta · 27/01/2014 22:53

This is why I'm glad I teach secondary tbh.

At least teens can be responsible for telling their parents about lost or broken items!

Chippednailvarnish · 27/01/2014 22:56

The teacher should have told you.

My Ds's record is 3 pairs in 6 weeks. There is something about small boys and glasses that doesn't compute! In fairness Ds hasn't broken his since he played "Trains" with his on the classroom floor and scratched them to the point of being useless.

But it's only been 2 weeks since he got the new pair.

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M0naLisa · 27/01/2014 22:58

I usually walk in the living room to find him sat with his glasses
On the back of his head with him saying 'I've got eyes in the back of my head mum'

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Chippednailvarnish · 27/01/2014 23:01

I normally find him with the arms stuck up his nose/ in his ears/ being chewed. Little boys find them irresistible!

Pipbin · 27/01/2014 23:26

Ex optician and current primary school teacher here!

Pick them up tomorrow and take them in to the optician. With any luck they should be able to fit the lenses back in and bend them into shape. Children are entitled to as many replacement pairs they need under the NHS provided the current ones are broken or missing. If you have paid extra for the frame then you will need to pay for that. Don't let them tell you that it's only so many in a year. It's rot and they don't like it because it cost them money. Of course the rules may have changed since I was in optics.

As for the teacher, as said above it could have been one of a hundred things that have happened that day and the teacher simply forgot to tell you. There are 30 other children in that class just as important to them as your DS is. This was in the morning, since then there have been about 5 lost jumpers, 7 'he's looking at me's, 12 'I don't have a pencil's. Not to mention the meeting at lunch time and the child that she is concerned about and really needed to speak to the parents at pick up.

Yes she should have told you, and you can be sure that about 5 minutes after you went she remembered.

Pipbin · 27/01/2014 23:29

Further to the replacement under the NHS, I found this: www.nhs.uk/chq/Pages/1096.aspx?CategoryID=68

Specsavers are charlatans and will tell you that you can only have so many replacements. Stand your ground.

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M0naLisa · 28/01/2014 19:51

I spoke to teacher this morning and saw the glasses. The arm was bent too. Teacher sai she forgot to speak to me yesterday.

Took them to specsavers and they fixed then there as then.

Thank you

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SaltaKatten · 28/01/2014 20:41

My daughter is five and has glasses, the consultant who sees her always writes on her prescription that she is to have two pairs, so one pair is always in school and she has a replacement if needed. Would this be worth asking for next time he needs new glasses?

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M0naLisa · 28/01/2014 20:43

For a second pair id have to pay and on low income arm

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Pipbin · 28/01/2014 20:45

You are only entitled to one pair at a time.
However do keep any old pairs when his prescription changes.

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M0naLisa · 28/01/2014 20:49

Yes I will do

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AwfulMaureen · 28/01/2014 20:49

You will have to get used to it. My DD is five too and this term she's broken them once....last term twice...she lost them too. They're very small children...it happens and the teachers are busy.

Chippednailvarnish · 28/01/2014 20:57

Lowers voice to a whisper - what if you "lost" them? They would have to give you a replacement...

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M0naLisa · 28/01/2014 21:19

Yes they would, I would imagine. I suppose I could go in In a month or so and say he's 'lost' them

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SueDoku · 28/01/2014 22:09

I feel your pain OP.......!

When my DS was small, his record for breaking his glasses was 5 mins (out of opticians, ran up road, tripped over, fell on face and glasses flew off and broke the arm...) I can now, but I wanted to then...

Our lovely optician took me aside and said that he would put them down as lost and order a new pair - then he mended them and gave them back to me, so we had two pairs.

I don't think that we ever got through a month without damage to his glasses, so (as DS has such poor eyesight that he couldn't see the board, let alone the writing on it) this was a godsend.

NewNameforNewTerm · 28/01/2014 22:10

In an ideal world, yes the teacher should have spoken to you, but if it is anything like my school when I take the children out I get several parents catching me about something as I scan the playground to make sure I'm passing the right child back to the right parent/carer, and if I've had a message that X is going home for a play date or Y mustn't go home with his father. If someone has complained of a headache / had a minor accident / a headbump /a change of underwear with soiled ones in a plastic bag in the bookbag (don't go there ... just think of the children whose parents don't read, etc. every night or for some reason don't get around to opening the bag that night ...) / not eaten anything from their lunchbox, etc. I urgently need to speak to those parents so sometimes issues like yours get away from me. I'm getting old and I forget things! I'm also less likely to remember after a long teaching day if the child doesn't normally wear glasses.
Glad the glasses got fixed. If your child wears glasses for reading / close work, does he need to wear them all the time in school? What about PE, playtimes, eating lunch, looking at the whiteboard from a distance? Does he have a sturdy case to keep them in between needing to wear them? Children with what sounds like your child's vision difficulties only put them on when they need them, leaving them in the case between, rather than wearing them mostly and taking them off and not knowing what to do with them. If he is like many boys I know I have a feeling you are going to have many more accidents with the glasses in the next few years so a backup plan in going to be essential.

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