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Nodirection · 27/01/2014 20:19

I recently miscarried (2nd trimester).
There seems to be lots of info, books etc about how to deal with grieving for your lost baby, but that is not the part I am finding hard.
I'm hoping you might be able to help with a book or philosophy to help me come to terms with the not knowing aspect of trying again, in my situation of trying to have a baby, or similar situations in life in general.
I'm finding myself at the moment thinking ahead all the time, thinking that if I get pregnant in 3 months then in a year I might have a baby, I'm almost wishing time away.
I feel quite in limbo because I had finished work, and was all geared for motherhood, now I don't know when it might be, or if! I wish I could just be content with being where I am with my plans, and less impatient.

I'm sure this makes no sense!

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GailTheGoldfish · 27/01/2014 21:16

The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle talks about present moment awareness - all worry and anxiety comes from either looking to the past or future and the way to be peaceful and calm is to be here now. I also like the Sedona Method for getting rid of negative emotions and thoughts. Lots of info on both on google. I wish you luck x

GailTheGoldfish · 28/01/2014 22:06

I'm bumping this for you because I keep thinking about it and hope that others can offer some thoughts too.

Lottapianos · 28/01/2014 22:08

Wishing time away - me too! I hate it, wish I could be happy or at least content with what's going on now. Watching this thread with interest

dazzledbythesky · 28/01/2014 22:18

God, I'm so sorry OP - no useful advice at all I'm sorry but my heart genuinely does go out to you x

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