to feed them different dinners??

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Because I am having world war 3!
DD1 is 12 in year 7. She wont take a packed lunch, and I suspect eats very little at school. But she always eats a good evening meal. So I try to make sure she has at least one good cooked meal with veg.
DD2 is 6 in year 1. She is a picky eater, but eats a good school dinner at lunch time.

Tonight DD2 is tired and wingy, said she wasnt hungry and asked for pizza. As she has already had a hot cooked meal and veg today, not unreasonable.
I was already making dinner (pie, boiled pots, veg and gravy). I had one frozen pizza.

DD1 has a friend here as I dropping them at a sports club at 6. So they have had the cooked meal, and DD2 has had pizza.
DD1 is not happy and being a right brat. I have told her to eat what she is given or she wont be going to her club. She says its not fair that DD2 has pizza.

So? WIBU to give them different dinners considering they have had different lunches?

The only time I make any difference is if you don't like what I have cooked
Ie - my son dislikes fish so he will have different that day

I don't care what you have for lunch if you want dinner you eat what I have made

Irrelevant of lunch I make one dinner and you have the option to eat it or not. off course DD1 was annoyed her sister got pizza!! Give them the same. 2 hot meals is better than one hot meal and pizza surely?

You are making a rod for your own back there. I too make one meal and one meal only. The menu choices in our house are 1) like it, or 2) lump it.

Of course I get moans and groans, but none of my family has ever starved.

I never bother thinking that what they had for lunch is relevant at all. They either eat what I provide at home or they go hungry.

^^ What they all said! Rod, back, stop it now

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I agree. Fruit and veg is allowable between meals too, no other options.

I cook one basic meal, although may vary it slightly. Ie. we all have mash and vegetables, but dc2 may have chicken nuggets whilst the rest of us has pasties. However, most of the time we all eat the same and if anyone is hungry later, they can have some toast or fruit (not sweets and cakes).

It doesn't sound very fair. I wouldn't be cooking anything else anyway. One choice, thats it.

Just re-read your original post, on the odd occasion I may do different meals, but not on a regular basis.

I would have been pretty annoyed at 12 if my 6 year old sister was allowed pizza and I wasn't! YABU. Cook one meal and if they don't eat it, tough. The only variants I would provide would be for allergies or genuine dislikes. But it would be a case of say, providing carrots instead of green beans as opposed to cooking an entirely new meal.

Pizza is for Fridays in our house. Today is a Monday - what are you thinking?

Well I have had the day off work, so maybe I thought it was Friday
Oh dear so I was BU :( Couldnt face a DD2 battle, she is my problem child....I guess I'll apologise to DD1 and offer her cheese on toast when she gets home, she's usually starving after 2hours of energetic sports.

Different meals is one things, I quite often do different but similar things in this house, however pizza will generally (at least by a 12 yo) be seen as more a 'treat' type meal than pie and boiled potatoes so I can see why DD1 was feeling hard done by.

Also poor older dd had a friend too , the friend must have thought you were mean not offering them pizza!

I only had one pizza, so not enough for everyone. DD1 friend almost lives here, so no worries there!

I don't think it was fair that you gave one daughter pizza after she was whinging and then had a go at DD1 for whinging that her sister had pizza. It sounds quite unfair. You are also going to dig yourself a whole where DD2 will whinge for pizza every time she doesn't like the sound of the dinner you are cooking.

Yabu sorry, don't cave in next time and dave yourself the bother x

DD2 didnt actually know what was for dinner when she asked for pizza TBF. But ok I accept I WIBU :(

Good on you for deciding to apologise OP. I sometimes think that parents are reluctant to do that to avoid appearing weak but I think that it shows respect for your DD to admit you were wrong and say sorry.

It will also be a good introduction into your new 'house rules' about tea so it doesn't happen again!

Will definitely apologise, have a good relationship with DD1, she is a very good girl, and I think sometimes my expectations of her are a bit high. Thanks all.

Perhaps give dd1 the choice for Friday night tea