to think there's no excuse..

[MamaPingu]

Not to see DS until 2 weeks old.
This was FIL, he then only met DS because I foolishly went on an hours bus journey each way 2 weeks after an emergency c section.
MIL visited in the hospital by getting a lift from her brother.

The excuse was he had a bad foot and "couldn't walk" despite being able to walk to work.
Travelling doesn't take much walking anyway does it? Getting a bus doesn't! He'd have walked less getting the bus to see his grandson than walking to work.

I know I shouldn't be bitter but I do regret taking DS to meet him, I'd love to know if he'd have been to see him by now at 5 months.

I don't know what I want from this thread I just feel moody today!!

My own dad wasn't going to bother travelling over from Ireland to see his new gd. I told him he had no choice so he came. But now I consider our relationship over. This is typical of him and I'm not subjecting the children to his laziness and selfishness.

So I understand how you feel.

My own dad took as long and he had no issues.

He now lives in Ireland and I got to see him for 2 hours with my son when he was over for a week. He spent it with his gf family and my other siblings.

I am past caring

I do sympathise. DD is four and I think PIL have seen her four times at most, first time around ten weeks when we visited. DS is fourteen months and they have seen him once, at eleven weeks when we practically forced a visit on them. In ten years of marriage they have visited our house once despite lots of invites. They are an hour and a half away.

It does hurt, but DH and I tell ourselves it's their loss.

My DH has no immediate family left except his one sibling, (who is married).They have seen our DD three times in the 6 years since she was born, (two of those were extended family occasions that we took her to). Their children (adults now) have never once bothered to come and meet her, let alone acknowledge her birthday or anything like that. They are her only cousins, and she theirs.
I know DH is upset, but I'm past giving a fuck. They don't exist to me any more.

My own dad doesn't even know DD2 and DS exist, partly because he showed so little interest in DD1! I don't wish my children to suffer the same disinterest I did!

That is awful how many of your own dads haven't visited
All DPs family visited once when he was born and have maybe seen him 6 other times if that. All those times I have taken him there!

At first I made an effort to go every week which lasted 2 weeks haha, I now go when I feel like it I don't care how long they go without seeing him even though MIL apparently is really upset by it, but it's not fair for me ship my 5 month old around I need to do what's best for us and us alone

I must add DP defends them a bit, which makes things worse. He puts pressure on for me to take DS through to see his family.
I am the only one who drives, DP doesn't