Being left alone on the ur anniversary of grandads passing

[LouiseSmith]

My grandad passed away a year ago today, it wasn't sudden and I was one of his carer for the 6months prior to his passing.

My mom and grandmother have gone away on holiday this week, and I feel a little lonely tbh. I'm all out of sorts tears last night, and with some health problems of my own I just feel a little lost.

So AIBU or over sensitive?

not unreasonable, especially given you are not well, but possibly a bit over sensitive. Obviously you'll remember the date and feel sad. But your mum and grandmother have evidently found their own way of coping, and you need to do so as well.

there's no time limit or rules on grief, but your grandfather would not want you to be permanently sad. How about a small treat for yourself and raise a glass or a cup (whatever you prefer!) to him?

Did they invite you?

I don't think they are unreasonable. You are an adult and losing a grandparent although devastating is what happens. How would them being at home help your sadness?

Maybe you could share some nice stories about him with your kids? My DCs don't remember my parents, so that's what I do.

My granddad died very suddenly and obviously it was awful and I miss him an awful lot and talk about him a great deal. But as an adult you find a way to cope with losing (presumably) elderly grandparents.

However the anniversaries of his birth and death don't mean a great deal to me. In completely blunt terms, he was dead the day before the anniversary and he will be dead the day afterwards.

So whilst I don't think YABU, I think that in the longer term, focusing on dates and anniversaries won't help you get over his dying.