to be disgusted with (d) h for posting this and hurt that sever people including a mutual friend liked it.

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Background. Things are not great between me and (d)h at moment. We have been under some stress and he has said some quite nasty things both verbally and more upsettingly on facebook.
Just discovered this gem. It relates to a time last year when I was on holiday with my mum and dc. A couple of my siblings had rung the house to enquire about my mum. We were in another country.
He basically sais if they ring again I should just send kids back and than made a comment about them only have 1 brain cell between the 4 of them. Bearing in mind one of my siblings died that year a certain amount of concern was understandable
Aibu to think that this is way outside the realms of normal behaviour and that liking the post is unacceptable too.

why OP? why are you still with him? why are you putting up with this crap? not to bother coming home unless you can be there by the time he specifies. I am amazed. what does he really mean to you. do you actually love him? if you do then get some relationship help. if you don't then seriously question what you are doing with someone. and posting on facebook. as someone up thread said is he 14? that's what teenagers do not grown up adults.

He sounds awful.

I can see him being pissed off at your(?) siblings phoning to ask how your mum was, though.

Why would a few phone calls bother him? He only had to give your siblings your mobile number and utter a few pleasantries, hardly the end of the world at the best of times, let alone when your DM was ill.

Putting snide comments about you, family or employees is immature and unprofessional. Demanding you be home by a certain time, or shouldn't bother coming home is unbelievable.

He sounds extremely aggressive, unpleasant and about 15 years old. A very nasty man.

I am not happy and I want out. Just trying to work out how?
I think they were worried and they couldn't reach me as I was overseas. My mum had a heart condition and all my brothers and sisters were close to her.

"Why would a few phone calls bother him?"

Well of course for most people it wouldn't be a problem.

But then why didn't her own kids know that she wasn't there?

Last minute holiday. Although I think they knew she was away. Just couldn't contact her directly as I always use a payg Mobile overseas. Not my contract one with internet.

so, you have made the decision to leave the relationship you need to put all your energies into doing that not looking at his facebook page or whatever. go and find a solicitor. get some sound legal advice. don't move out with the kids stay where you are and once you have everything really clear in your mind, then tell him. Its a shame you don't think the relationship is worth saving. but if you don't then plan how to get out of it. that's where you need to put all your time and energy because unpicking a relationship is never easy or cheap.

I think the turning point was last night. I guess we could try relate. So tough. We have been together 16 years but the last few have been tough. Maybe we can chang, I just don't know.

do you still love him? if yes try relate if no then start planning. if you have fallen out of love it is not that likely that you will fall back in. however if you think you do still love him then try relate but do it sooner don't let this fester. its the things we don't say that kill relationships not what we do.