I have met a woman through my DD that I really like. We have chatted and get on well, she has my sense of humour and has also had a chequered relationship history so wasnt at all judgemental of mine. Our DD's are friends but they are both quite emotionally mature so there is none of the falling in and out that you sometimes get with teenage girls.
The thing is, I have never been good at making friends. I am shit at it. I am permanently worried about getting it wrong, trying too hard, not trying hard enough.....which means that the friends I have are the people who could be bothered to make the effort with me, as I never did with them for fear of getting it wrong. I usually get on well with people I meet and they seem to like my company, but the fear of seeming like a stalker puts me off and I end up looking flaky or stand offish. But I would like to try and be friends with this woman.
I was thinking of asking her for a coffee, is that ok? Is that socially acceptable or is it trying too hard? Should I ask her to mine for coffee or to a cafe? I dont know!!!
Please dont laugh at me, I know how pathetic it sounds. In one of Terry Pratchetts books a witch bestows a gift onto a child of being able to make friends easily. I wish someone had done that for me.