To save my ds's old clothes incase we have another baby (unlikely)

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Ds has just turned 1, we have lots of lovely baby clothes that he has grown out of, I have bagged them all up and am saving them incase we have another baby.

It took a long time to get pregnant with ds, we very nearly had to have IVF (ds was conceived the month we were due to start) both me and dp have fertility issues so it is a small miracle that I got pregnant naturally. These days we hardly have time to have sex never mind think about trying to get pregannt.

Today our friends came over with their tiny 2 week old baby. I wa stelling them that we had swaddling blankets with velcro on that helped ds sleep and offered to dig them out so they could try it out rather than buying one online (we live in a country where they disagree with swaddling so you can't buy them in the shops) I was looking through the bags of clothes trying to find the blankets and I felt guilty that I didn't offer all the clothes to my friends. I gave them a couple of snowsuits and some clothes that were too small for ds even when he was a newborn.

AIBU to want to save the clothes at least for now despit having friends who could use the clothes?

Do other people save baby clothes or do you give them away even if your not sure if you will have another baby?

My mom had fertility problems. She kept a lot of baby stuff (I don't know about clothes though) for 9 years, then gave it away. Lo and behold, a couple of months later... she was pregnant!

I have always kept mine, I have four dc. I am now pregnant with twins and have recently given a lot of both girl and boys clothes away as I plan to dress my girls twins the same while they are little.
I don't plan to have any more dc but as you may have more dc in the future you should keep them and not feel guilty.

It took me four years to have dd. I am 35 with a dh who is ill and will be for an indefinite time period...

I've kept everything, and I'm hoping desperately to have another even though it is incredibly unlikely.

Well! I gave up everything I had for DD1 after 4 years, then had to buy it again for DD2 born 5 years and 10 days after DD1. not statistic or anything though!

I gave all my ds's clothes to a friend even though I knew I was going to have another. I just told her that I wanted stuff back when she'd finished with it (unless it was wrecked). I kept anything I was really previous about so that she could use the rest without worrying. When I had ds2 I got given the vast majority of ds1's stuff back, plus all of her ds's clothes. She has now had ds2 too and has had the lot back from me - it's just an ever expanding wardrobe!

Could you not loan them some bits? A friend of mine did this for me, I wrote her initial on the labels so I knew what to give back.
Maybe give them the less special bits?
I know what you mean though, my dd is 4, we've been ttc for 3 years and I have most of her stuff although do give some bits to a friend of mine with a dd and should I ever need them she would give them back!
Maybe I should give her my favourite bits then I might get pregnant ... Hmm, maybe!

Why can't you just offer to lend them to your friend? A new baby isn't in clothes long enough to wear them out so just say they can use but you'd like them back just in case? It is win win all around then

YANBU at all. It's entirely up to you. I have kept a few tiny babygros (the ones they wore the most) so I can remember how teeny they were. I got rid of everything else as soon as ds2 grew out of it as we don't want any more. For me that was best as a small part of me does want more children but DH doesn't, I'm finding it easier to give it away when ds2 is still little. I think if I'd waited until he was older I'd be sobbing over piles of baby things and struggle to part with it but that's just me. If you don't feel you want to give it away then don't, there's no need to feel guilty at all!

It sounds like the best fertility treatment is giving away clothes!

Lending is a good idea :)

YANBU. Don't lend them, unless you are prepared never to see them again. It's very hard to distinuguish between baby stuff that has been lent and second hand baby stuff that has been given, espeically for a sleep deprived new parent.

Nobody is ever sure that they will have another baby. But as long as you would like to have one then nothing wrong with saving the clothes. We would like to have another, so have not given away anything.

I wouldn't lend clothes out unless I wasn't bothered about never seeing them again.

The clothes might get ruined, or friends may forget which clothes you'd lent them and give them away to someone else.

And YANBU to keep baby clothes if you think that you may want another child, regardless of how likely or not that may be.

We did a lending thing. Initial in label and its clear that its a loan not a gift but on the understanding that if something gets stained or ruined its not a problem.

I've recently had some stuff handed back to me that I brought 21 years ago.

Very special stuff goes in the loft.

It's lovely when you get the back of bits back from a memory point of view

after 5 years we gave up on having a second and gave almost all our stuff away.

Hello, 5 1/4 years someone's joke about me upchucking nudged me into a test and it was pos.

Soooo yes, suddenly we're scrabbling around for clothes =)

so yes, give them away. Then you're more likely to get preg (j/k .. .probably)