To go to a family wedding without the children?

[Gimmesomemore]

We've been invited to a wedding as a family, so dh and I and the 3 dc.

It's a fair distance away so we're planning to book a room at a nearby hotel. Problem is we'd need 2 rooms, so looking at roughly £150.

My parents have offered to have the children for us, so we can go alone, but I'm feeling guilty.

So aibu to go without them?

YANBU

Weddings are lovely without children there

Do the bride and groom know the DC and would they want them there?

I mean, lovely for you

No way! They'll probably enjoy time with GPs far more than a boring wedding, mine absolutely hate going so haven't been for a good few years. I get to relax, they don't have to sit through something they have no interest in!

Don't feel guilty!

You're allowed to do things without the kids

YANBU, unless the B&G desperately want your DC to be present and would be able to spend a lot of time with them, which, frankly, seems implausible. No reflection on your DC intended!

Go without them and make the most of it!

Yanbu

Tbh op most kids are bored at weddings and would probably opt for fun instead. The odd one.might enjoy but not many especially if young. Do you fancy a night to.yourselves?

Depends on how many other children will be there. They could have great fun, or it could be totally boring for them. Don't feel guilty if you decide not to take them.

Go! A weekend without children sounds utterly fabulous!

Run for the hills and don't look back till Sunday afternoon

Thanks for the replies.

The invite is from my dh's foster sister's daughter and fiancé. They won't be upset if our children don't go, but I'm feeling guilty. One of my Ds's is train mad, and the groom is too, so there is a train theme to the wedding and the venue has a steam engine pass through its gardens. I think this is adding to my guilt!

Gimme

He need never know. There will be other trains. Ditch the guilt.

Go alone, but be prepared to carry the guilt for a lifetime!

Or just take the train-loving one?

Ok, I'm feeling better about going now, thanks again for the replies.

Bride and groom will probably be glad to save the cost of three meals!
Go, and enjoy.