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Koothrapanties · 22/01/2014 10:20

We have recently moved into a second floor flat. We have a 15 week old dd and I would class us to be considerate neighbours. We never play loud music, are very conscious of the fact that the flat has laminate flooring which can be quite noisy and generally try to be as quiet as possible really.

We have met the neighbour below us once when he brought up some mail that was delivered to him by accident. He seemed quite friendly, we said it was nice to meet him and that we were really pleased to be living here. The neighbour has quite severe learning disabilities, but seems to live alone.

The problem is that whenever we hoover, or dd cries or makes the loud squawking sounds, he starts repeatedly slamming doors and banging things. Dd is a quite contented baby so doesn't cry often, but she really squawks and squeals very loudly when 'talking to us'. You obviously cannot tell a 15 week old to keep it down and we obviously need to hoover so I'm not sure what to do! Dd got upset in the night a few days ago so we took her out of the bedroom to the lounge so we wouldn't disturb him in the bedroom below, but he still started slamming doors and shouting.

I'm not sure if it is due to his learning disabilities that he is so sensitive to normal household noise, but it seems to be really upsetting him. We really are trying to be as considerate as possible, what should I do? Just ignore it and know we are unintentionally upsetting him so much or do something? If so, what?

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littlewhitebag · 22/01/2014 10:24

If it is council housing then you could speak to the housing department. He may have an allocated support worker.

Koothrapanties · 22/01/2014 10:26

I don't want it to come across as I'm making a complaint. It's just I can't stop the things that are upsetting him!

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littlewhitebag · 22/01/2014 11:03

But if he had a support worker they might be able to talk him through how the household noises you make are normal and that he can't react to them like he is. I wouldn't say you were complaining. Merely looking for a resolution that would suit both household.

Koothrapanties · 22/01/2014 11:08

I'm with a housing association rather than the council, are they likely to have a similar thing?

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AwfulMaureen · 22/01/2014 11:10

You should share the information because he can then receive support regarding the stress he may be having.

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