to want to throttle my DH?

[DontGiveAwayTheHomeworld]

I know he works hard. But I've been at home all day with a sick DS, I'm midway through a massive clear out, I've cooked dinner and done washing up and tidied the whole house, all while recovering from the same bug DS has.

So DH got in, ate dinner and fell asleep in front of Return of the Jedi. I wanted some conversation, or at least a cuddle, but he's snoring away and shows no sign of actually going to bed.

This is not the first time. He doesn't seem to pay any attention unless I'm trying to have sex with him! Which I don't particularly want to do, since I feel like crap and he ignored me and fell asleep.

Grrr. Stealing his cider then, since he's not drinking it!

Ditto to you, almost exactly.

I don't want to throttle my dh, I'd like to leave him.

YANBU at all. DH works away from home and is constantly knackered. I wish he would just go upstairs to bed but he insists on falling asleep on the sofa in the middle of a TV show or conversation. I can't count the number of times I've watched the same 10 minutes of a film multiple times.

Just stay awake or fuck off to bed.

It's possible he had a hard day at work and just fell asleep after understandably being shattered. Did you ask him what he did today? Did you ask him if his day was incredibly difficult or stressful? Did you make him aware of how hard your day was and how much you wanted to talk, how sick you were? You're sounding angry because he's asleep when you wanted to talk, but he doesn't know you wanted to talk, does he?

Sounds like you are being unreasonable if he's fallen asleep without you making him aware of how unhappy you are.

Oh sweetie I know how you feel! I have been married for 24 years and this still pisses me off! But, I love him, he's a great father, he works so hard for his family... And after so long, I actually enjoy watching what I want on tv. In fact I get p**d off when he wakes up and I have to stop the medical/childbirth programme I was watching. Luckily recorded so I encourage him to go back to sleep then put it on again. I am lucky that I can moan to friends about my awful day. My DH doesn't want to hear it. That's ok with me... It will get better when kids older. In fact our youngest is just about to fly the nest and it will be just us....another stage in my life..but that's another thread.

I asked my DH once why he didn't just GO TO BED and he said he likes my company!! Even snoring on the sofa! I never moaned again.