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abour swearing in films?

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SolidGoldBrass · 21/01/2014 20:46

Bit of a contentious issue between me and my DS' father. I really can't get my undies in a bundle about DS hearing an expletive or three in a film he's watching: he hears plenty in the street as it is. He is 9 and we have had more than one chat about 'bad words' - I have told him that using them in front of other people is bad manners and sounds particularly unpleasant when children do it, so he is not to do it, but also that it's not the world's biggest deal.
His father says that if he is watching a film clip and someone says a bad word, he has to turn it off immediately. (His father doesn't live with us, though sees him regularly). I have currently said that when he's with his dad, he does what dad says, but when he's with me, he can watch the things - though if I catch him using expletives, he won't be allowed to watch them any more.
I just think it's idiotic to prohibit a child from watching/reading something that is otherwise enjoyable or even valuable because ooh dear, waa waa, someone Says The F Word. And I am generally engaged in making sure DS grows up as free of mundane fuckwittery as possible anyway.

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LittleBabyPigsus · 21/01/2014 20:52

YANBU imo. By the age of 9 he'll have heard far worse in the playground, and there are plenty of enjoyable and valuable films that have swearing eg Stand By Me which I bet he'd love in a couple of years.

MrsTerryPratchett · 21/01/2014 20:54

As long as it's not Scarface, YANBU.

JenBehavingBadly · 21/01/2014 20:56

The odd dodgy word for a 9yo is par for the course. I wouldn't fret myself about it. I wouldn't do a film that had loads of swearing in though.

jlb1234 · 21/01/2014 21:15

I would question the entire content of what he watches if it has swear words in it. Then judge it on that. I don't think yabu, however i also dont think hes dad is really, as i can't see it really being that much of an occurrence that it restricts, i think its just a different view point on things.

BrickorCleat · 21/01/2014 21:18

Strap your DP down in front of Wolf of Wall Street. That's three hours of kill or cure.

You're welcome Grin

mistermakersgloopyglue · 21/01/2014 21:19

Yes but if a film has swearing in it, particularly words like 'fuck' then isn't it likely that the themes in it are going to be quite adult and therefore unsuitable for a 9 year old anyway?

I can't think of many films with swearing in that are otherwise totally appropriate for kids?

CuntyBunty · 21/01/2014 21:23

Nah, YAnBU, it's only fucking swearing, who gives a shit

More seriously, hearing a bit of swearing and a sensible chat with Mum will give the child a good idea of context, ITYSWIM

claraschu · 21/01/2014 21:27

I agree OP. Children have no problem understanding that it is inappropriate to swear. If you are casual and low key about it, swearing doesn't become a big deal for them.

SolidGoldBrass · 22/01/2014 10:02

It's mostly amateur film clips of fucking Minecraft on Youtube. For those of you who have been spared so far don't know, there are people who invent their own Minecraft scenarios and post them. Most are fine, but now and again someone gets a bit overexcited and yells 'Oh shit it's a monster' or something.
So it's not a case of me letting him watch Trainspotting or Saw III or whatever, just that the odd expletive shouldn't be such a big deal.

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