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To wonder what the school will make of this.

41 replies

LadyPenny · 21/01/2014 19:16

Our school has a Facebook page which staff and parents use to communicate.
I've just seen a post from a mum which says
"I'm just letting you know that Harry has lost his lunch box again. I'm fed up of this happening so have given him a choice. He can go and find it or have no lunch tomorrow. He has chosen to have no lunch so I wlll not be sending one in. Please do not give him a school dinner as I will not pay for it".
Surely sending him in with his lunch in a carrier bag and making him use pocket money to replace the lunch box would be a better option. Or am I too soft.
Primary school if that makes any difference.

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SaucyJack · 21/01/2014 20:41

Our primary school goes all the way up to age 11- and a child of that age should be more than capable of either taking better care of their possessions or making their own bloody sandwich.

Hulababy · 21/01/2014 20:43

Regardless saucyjack - I can't imagine any primary school, nor any teacher/staff, knowingly allow a child to go without lunch whilst in their care. Regardless of what they parent says.

NewtRipley · 21/01/2014 20:43

Ah, I see she thought better of it. Probably in a rage when she posted

NewtRipley · 21/01/2014 20:43

The staff would never agree to it.

Domus · 21/01/2014 20:44

They should Saucy but the school still can't let him go without if he hasn't done.

NonnoMum · 21/01/2014 20:45

Is Harry 5 or 15? Makes a difference...

Floggingmolly · 21/01/2014 20:47

She posted that on a Facebook page accessible by the entire school; both staff and parents? Hmm. I hope she removed it because the HT gave her a bollocking and insisted she did.

LynetteScavo · 21/01/2014 20:49

I bet she caves in. I can see how a mum could get furious and have a rant, then give in and send in lunch in a plastic bag.

(DS lost 5, yes 5 lunch boxes in one term before I just stopped bothering with lunch boxes, and went with a plastic bag)

LynetteScavo · 21/01/2014 20:51

And DS ate very little of his packed lunch...infact eventually he stopped eating any at all. Not even crisps or kitkat. The schools line was "We can't force him if he doesn't want to" They could have encouraged him, though, rather than letting him go straight out to play football. He now has school dinners.

DoJo · 21/01/2014 20:52

It sounds as though she made a threat without really thinking it through, not expecting her son to take the no lunch option, or he goaded her by saying 'Fine - I'll have a school dinner instead' and she had to do something.
Not justifying it, or saying she was right, but I can kind of see how she might have backed herself into a corner and attempted to follow through in frustration. However, hopefully the fact that the message has now gone means that she has thought of a more appropriate punishment for lunchbox-losing Harry and he will be suffering on a full stomach at least.

Chippednailvarnish · 21/01/2014 20:55

As Nonno said, if Harry is 6ft 2", 18 stone and 17 years old he's only got himself to blame Grin.

mrspremise · 21/01/2014 20:57

Manybschools will contact SS if no lunch is provided by the parents/guardians and payment is refused for school dinners. Just FYI...

bellasuewow · 21/01/2014 21:00

It is really concerning and quite cruel to use witholding food as a punishment I hope the school deal with her appropriately.

IneedAsockamnesty · 21/01/2014 21:02

I'm having a stupid moment, missed that bit Blush

But it would have been very very funny if it was sixth form

SaucyJack · 21/01/2014 21:09

They should Saucy but the school still can't let him go without if he hasn't done.

No I know- more's the pity tho Shock

Depending on his age, Harry may or may not not be a lippy, irresponsible little gobpoo* who could do with a good lesson in taking care of himself.

*I should know. I have one of these myself.

Starballbunny · 21/01/2014 21:33

If Harry is Y5/Y6 it will not kill him to go without lunch (DD2 frequently ate only 40% of hers)

Bit mean to put it on FB though.

What I needed was a effective punishment for leaving jumpers scattered round school and important letters in your draw.

I eventually went in and rounded up about five jumpers (she managed to loose all her own and several to big hand me downs she found of her sister's)

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