To ask what is a good way to deal with patronising people/comments?

[theeverydaydancer]

There is a woman I know through work who I find extremely patronising and irritating. For example she often tells me things regarding my job that I know very well i.e. how to do things that I do often or just stuff that is blindingly obvious. She often does this by talking to me reeeeally sloooowly like I'm some sort of idiot (I'm not, I'm reasonably well educated and intellegent and I'm very good at my job. I also get on well with the other people I work with).

It drives me mad. I want to scream at her to STOP patronising me but feel this wouldn't go down too well. I tend to say "yes, I do know this thanks" but this usually just produces another patronising remark back.

I'm usually very polite but then get very annoyed about it later. Was wondering if anyone had any good tips?

It seems that she is not getting your hints so I'm not sure if there is a way through this without upsetting her. However she is clearly upsetting you so you do need to let her know. Is she senior to you? You could try heavy sarcasm "thanks for that info, I never would have worked it out without your detailed and frankly unnecessary instructions"

I'm fairly well known for being direct so if it was me I'd tell her she was pissing me off.

Is she senior to you and thinks she is training? Does she do this to everybody?

I would find this very irritating too and would be tempted to find some way of making the point. I suppose it depends what ramifications it would have if you disgruntled her. Would it be held against you or would it just get her to back off?

You could try talking back to her in an exaggeratedly slow voice see if she gets the hint. Or turn the tables and try explaining in great detail to her things she obviously knows, like how to make a cup of tea or something.

In what context does she tell you these things? Does she mean well?

Could you not take her aside and ask if she has any problems with your work? Then, assuming she says no, tell her that her input is therefore clearly unnecessary and the fact that she keeps offering unneeded advice is interrupting you while you are trying to get on with your work.