To be pissed off at all the whinging, moaning and lack of contact friends and family make unless they are in need of sympathy.

[K8eee]

Ok admittedly I'm 31 weeks pg, my mum has been in and out of hospital since Xmas (nothing life or death, but nasty enough) she's in there at the moment. I currently don't have any friends who live within 2 hours drive. Anyway, seems to be mostly me who makes the contact with most of them which makes me feel like I'm desperate to keep in contact, and my sister is constantly after bloody sympathy for what feels like illnesses she is making up. Tbh she hasn't the best health, she has all the time in the world as she chooses not to work, but burgs her head in the sand with regard to getting herself followed up with drs appts. I sent her a text to say to give me a call this evening, when she did I was in the shower, after I was going to call her back, but fell asleep on the couch. She sent me a message over Facebook to say she was going to be early as she has been feeling crappy, to which I replied, sorry I fell asleep, maybe give me a call tomorrow as I'm going to bed early too. Her reply basically said, well yeah aslong as I don't admit myself to the hospital tomorrow with how crap I'm feeling. Just seems like she's after a shed load of sympathy and to make me feel bad. What is stopping her emailing or messaging me via Facebook?! Or an I being selfish myself? Sorry I'm slightly hormonal, but fed up of me always being the one to make all the effort.

Is it ok to say just how very exhausting your message reads K8eee?

Not helpful, I know but seriously...move on from these folks if you'd like a quieter life.

Hope your pregnancy progresses with far less drama and best of luck x

You might be taking on a bit of emotional guilt. Don't. Your sister may be processing things and expressing herself that way. Allow her do that. Your mum is sick and you will soon be meeting your little baby. Get cleaning! And be nice to yourself!

Try & make more local friends, easier said than done but with a baby soon you can go out & meet new people.

Control the quality of the contact time that you have with people, if it doesn't work for you then ditch them.

Do you know the exact nature of your sister's illness? Could it be something actually serious which she is hiding which is being overlooked because of her general manner.

Try to rest and catch up on sleep because once the baby arrives you will be feeling tired.

I know my post reads a bit like 'oh feel sorry for me and give me the sympathy' but I'm just pretty fed up of people being negative all the while.

My sister is one for making thugs worse than they are, and from past experience, she's been like it all her life. I get that if you're feeling unwell you want some support, but can't she just plod on like most of us do? Before Xmas she had a cancer scare, and has got to be followed up to make sure pre cancer cells in her uterus don't develop, and I would be petrified if that happened to me; but when all this happened, I had my 12 week scan and very carefully told relevant family & friends. I felt awful telling her as she has always wanted children, but financially and physically she can't even look after herself (which she too has admitted) but why should I revolve my life and when I get pregnant around someone who didn't follow themselves up 8 years ago after a smear test as she then had these pre cancer cells. I know that 1000's of women are like her because they hate the procedure, but everything seems dramatised on purpose.

With the whole friend making thing, I'm really hoping I can make some local friends once baby is born. I can't wait to have a little one to look after, and dh and I have wanted this for ages. It'll be nice to bing some good news to our family, especially my parents (I think they're more excited than we are ) I'm hoping to go to swimming classes with baby, and get myself fit and active in aerobic style classes so I can have some 'me' time as I don't want to let myself go and get depressed.

God I sound so awful I know

You don't sound awful at all K8eee, just weary from it all.

It's just one of those things that are outwith your control and you just have to accept it I think (your sister and her situation that is), perhaps just supporting her when you have the energy to do so in a way that you find doesn't affect you so much.

I'm really glad you, your DH and parents are so excited about your impending arrival; just focus on the great positives in your life and hope you make some great local friends soon.