to be a bit irritated by my friends ignoring my message? Facebook related. sorry....

[bebbeau]

disclaimer: i am 28 weeks pregnant and a lot bit hormonal and sensitive so be a bit gentle with me please

i sometimes go for breakfast with 3 of my good friends, we live on opposite sides of the city so we meet in the middle as it were, it takes a bit of planning sometimes as we all have dcs. so yesterday morning i sent a group fb message out saying does anyone fancy meeting for breakfast this week.

i saw that the message has been read by all of them, more or less as soon as i sent it

and they have all been on FB posting and commenting loads etc since then so why is my message so unimportant? even if no one could make it, i don;t mind, they could at least just say!

bear in mind that if any of the others send a message arranging this everyone replies immediately

i just feel a bit ignored. but don't want to look needy or clingy by saying anything... sigh .....it was easier in the olden days when you just rang people and they either answered the phone or they didn't...

Why don't you just ring them then? Otherwise they'll reply in 2 weeks with some bs excuse or that they just received it

If it's an informal invite to several people then they maybe thought they only had to reply if they fancied going and that if they didn't reply they'd presume that they meant no.
I wouldn't fancy meeting anyone for breakfast, way too early for me.
I agree they could have said "no thanks", but facebook saying someone has seen your message doesn't necessarily mean that as I've messaged my kids when at their dads and they've said they didn't see the message and just had their phone/ computer on with it on in the background.
People get inundated with stuff in this electronic age. if I need a reply I phone people. Next time maybe say "contact me if you fancy meeting up" then you won't be upset if they don't.

I often read private FB messages at work as they appear on my phone, but can't reply until I'm home. However, this may not be until after 9pm as I have 'house/family' things to do

If they are good friends I would send a jokey message like "Anyone....? Oh well, more bacon sarnies for me then!"

I was always taught at school not to reply 'no' to these sort of group questions so that the 'yes' camp don't get drowned out. So no reply should be presumed to be a 'no'.

Or maybe I just had an odd teacher.

Having said that, I quite often get facebook messages flash up that I know will be from someone suggesting a meet up, and can't reply for a bit as I need to check plans with DP or whatever.....I often don't read the message for days to avoid this happening . Thing is, I don't want to reply to a whole group of people saying "would LOVE to see you, but I've asked DP and he's waiting to hear from work if he will be busy then because if so I'm free but if not it'll be the only night we have together for 3 weeks, in which case I'd prefer to push it back if that suits you, but please let me know if not, and we're also waiting to hear back from DSD's Mum who may need one of us to pick DSD up that eve, in which case I may have to go depending on DP's work...." which I would say over the phone. I often end up replying "If you need definite numbers today, I'll have to say no as am still not sure " and then sometimes get in touch nearer the time and say "actually I can make it if there's space"

So YANBU to be upset, but YABU if you think it's personal. Although if they always reply to each other, just not you, then that's weird...