To not see these films with dh?

[Dancergirl]

Dh and I love films and go to the cinema quite often.

We can usually find films we both enjoy and want to see.

However lately there are loads of films I don't fancy because of the violence/gory bits. I'm really squeamish and have felt faint in films before and seeing gory stuff on tv.

He wants to see 12 years a slave, Wolf of Wall Street and American Hustle, all of which come into the category of violence/explicit injury.

I did suggest to dh he finds a friend to go with but he's not keen. He's not having a huge sulk or anything like that, think he'd just prefer to go with me.

Suppose I could go and put my hands over my eyes for the gory bits...

Agree with Bones. Bits of Wolf of Wall Street are actually pretty funny. I can't remember any 'gore', and the violence isn't too bad (desensitised?). American Hustle likewise. Both have more gratuitous nudity/sex/drugs than anything else tbh! But both were quite funny and clever in places and I would recommend them. I haven't seen 12yrs yet so would take Bones advice. 2/3 isn't bad, your DH should be happy with that?

Yes think he will be.

Out of Wolf and Hustle, which would you recommend?

Out of Wolf and Hustle, which would you recommend?

'Wolf of Wall Street' is excellent.

'American Hustle' bored me from the start and I gave up after an hour.

DH and I have had a long and happy marriage of 40+ years due to, after the initial best courting behaviour and pretending to ' just love ' sodding art house and sci fi movies,we eventually begged to differ and saw the movies that we liked individually.Truth hurts but honesty was the best policy and we are happy ever after.

Lot of truth in that maras! And tbh, sometimes we do our own thing, but there are usually lots of films we both like. But I know he comes with me to see something he wouldn't choose himself just to be nice, and I'd like to be nice back!

Maybe I'll give Wolf of Wall Street a go. But 3 hours???

Like maras2 dh and I have very different taste in films. I'd no more expect him to watch films I like than expect him to sit through those I like. dh goes on his own if he wants to see something at the cinema. I go on my own to the theatre sometimes - can't see it as a big problem, in fact, it was a bonus when dc were little as didn't involve getting a babysitter.
After the initial 'courtship' I can't help thinking life's too short to be going to see films you really don't like.

Something had to be done.No way could I sit through 2001 A Space Odyssey again without ending up,rocking in the foetal position.1st time was ok,nice music etc very atmospheric for snogging.2nd time not so good,can only take so much Strauss.When mentioned again,it was time for ' We need to talk ' :)

I actually don't have a problem with seeing things alone, I've seen plays and films by myself quite happily. I would rather see something alone than go with someone who hates it.

Dh, on the other hand, feels a bit funny about going alone...

My DH has often gone to the cinema with a friend if I don't want to see the film. It's too expensive to go if you know you won't enjoy the film

I am going to see Wolf of Wall St on my own tomorrow... Dh saw Gravity by himself last week.
I fancy The RailwY Man too.

i could sit through something that i thought was boring as a reciprocal arrangement but i could not watch violence or gore i find films about the holocaust, horror films and most sci-fi too scary and i will not watch them as they give me nightmares