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Original poster

would it be unreasonable to get dp up early on lie in day?

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itispersonal · 20/01/2014 06:14

On dps days off I get a lie in Sunday, he on a Monday. I got my lie in yesterday. But dd is ill, full of cold, she's normally a Brill sleeper who sleeps thru 7 til gone 7, even when ill and teething however tonight has been very different.

She woke up twice before we went to bed, Dp went to sleep in spare room, and 2 more times before half 1, which I got up for and bought dd in bed with me. Dd was awake from 4, eventually did her a bottle but gave dd to Dp as made it, he fed her and tried to settle her but she wouldnt and I had her back at 5am. Bless her she is so tired but can't get to sleep. (know how she feels as I was the same when ill Saturday night). So I've already had the disrupted sleep and been awake from 4, would it be unreasonable of me to wake up Dp earlier than normal on his lie in day so I can have a quick nap, before we have to go out? Or save a nap until this afternoon, I already feel sick and headachy as soo tired.

Dp wakes up during the week at half 5 so know he needs a lie in ... He has got a weeks holiday after this week

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Flukewoman · 20/01/2014 06:16

All bets off with ill children. Wake him!

YellowDinosaur · 20/01/2014 06:18

I'd let him have his lie in then go back to bed once he wakes up.

YellowDinosaur · 20/01/2014 06:19

I don't think you'd be unreasonable to wake him.
But letting him sleep means it's not unreasonable to then go back to bed so I'd play the long game.

JeanSeberg · 20/01/2014 06:22

Are either of you working today?

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itispersonal · 20/01/2014 06:24

No we are both off I'm still on ml and dps day off but have 10 month review mid mornin.

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MyNameIsKenAdams · 20/01/2014 06:24

Id hang on til he gets up then go back to bed for a couple of four hours.

Am envious! I was at work til 11pm, dd is up and has been since five and I have to leave for work in fove mins, after the grand sum.of four hours sleep :-(

Original poster
itispersonal · 20/01/2014 06:27

Bless you mynameis, i/we're not used to this. And I'm a person who needs a good 8 plus hours to function and will still have an afternoon when dd does.

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JeanSeberg · 20/01/2014 06:41

Let him have his lie-in and you have a sleep later.

pussycatdoll · 20/01/2014 06:46

I'd let him lie in if every day he's up at 5.30 and he let you lie in yesterday

TheDoctrineOf2014 · 20/01/2014 06:51

If you have a work thing, I'd wake him and then he can nap this afternoon.

Bowlersarm · 20/01/2014 06:52

I'd let him lie in.

scaevola · 20/01/2014 06:53

Let him have the remnants of his lie in - as he was awake with you 4-5 ish, and went back to bed (rather than just thinking 'sod it, it's only 30 mins until I'm usually up') should be a reminder that he needs sleep too.

AmberLeaf · 20/01/2014 06:55

He was up with the baby too yes?

id let him sleep on. What time would he get up on a lie in day?

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itispersonal · 20/01/2014 06:59

He was up for about 45 mins.

He'll sleep til no later than half 9!

He has been good in general with helping in the night, if she does have a rare bad night, especially if I've been up with her all night even if he's got work in the morning. So not complaining or wouldn't complain to him. Even ifI do want to jump up and down on his bed to wake him.

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BABaracus · 20/01/2014 07:02

I'd also let him sleep.

Jinty64 · 20/01/2014 07:05

I would let him have his lie in and go back to bed when he gets up. Do you mean a 10 month review for dd? I think you need to cancel that until she is better. She will probably nap later and DP can listen out for her while you rest.

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itispersonal · 20/01/2014 07:09

Yea 10 month review for dd, going to see if can cancel it when they open!

Have tried to get dd to nap again half 6 time as she is knackered and crying, but cries more when I lie her down in her cot (where she normally naps or with me).

Yea once Dp is up he will look after her and won't mind if I nap.

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itispersonal · 20/01/2014 07:18

Dp is now up from dd shouting and crying downstairs, live in a small house where the sound echos and told me to go have a nap. He's a good egg, so I'm gonna try and get some sleep. Na night!

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TheDoctrineOf2014 · 20/01/2014 07:26

Good stuff! Can he take her for a drive then bring her in in her car seat if she falls asleep? Transfer if possible but if not, she might get a couple of hours at least.

amyshellfish · 20/01/2014 08:07

Nothing useful to add but how refreshing to hear about a DP that looks after his child and isn't a selfish fuckwit like most of the threads on here!

TheDoctrineOf2014 · 20/01/2014 08:13

Don't forget, Amy, that there are lots of great DPs put there and people mostly post to get advice on bad relationships!

Ledkr · 20/01/2014 08:15

Let him sleep. He's been up every day. A day with little sleep won't kill you.
I was up early with mine even though I'm recovering from surgery. Dh has to work a late shift today so I sneaked up. He will go mad when he wakes up as he's taking his nursing duties very seriously.
All I'm doing is mums netting and drinking tea to be fair [ grin]

WelshMaenad · 20/01/2014 08:18

He sounds like a goodun ! Enjoy your nap OP.

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itispersonal · 20/01/2014 09:13

Oh he can be a fuckwit but has his good points! Especially with dd.

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MidniteScribbler · 20/01/2014 09:17

Sounds like a good plan. And cancel the review, it can wait, and taking a sick child isn't going to much good anyway.

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