A bit of a rant sorry but feels so much better to get things out. Had a big row with another childs mother. Both DC's attend same school and see each other in playground, share friends etc. DC attended an event hosted by a club they attend .DC recently did extremely well in club exams and when she gave her pass mark to other child who had apparently asked DC what her score was went off and told event leader who accused my DC of bullying and boasting and denied pass mark given was correct in front of some other dc's. Tried to point out that other dc in this disagreement is not exactly innocent (from past experience has wound dc up) via e-mail. Event organiser then maliciously passed e-mail to other dcs mother. Rang other dcs mother and told her was sorry for sending e-mail (even though content was true) and agreed to meet her to clear the air and apologise.
Turns out that event organiser had not collected full facts and reacted on hear say and other dc was reported to have been smirking as dd got told off in front of other dcs who now don't believe that dd has done as well as she has due to event leaders denial of this.
Went to other dcs mother to apologise. She stood above me whilst I sat on chair and basically told me how she was qualified in childcare and phycology and so she thought she could help me determine where MY problems lay in terms of parenting my own dc. Then asked me what had happened in my own childhood to make me react this way and the woman hardly knows me! Also she had a rant at DH on the phone telling him that he didn't set a very good example. A whole host of issues were then hurled at me the fact that I do go in and speak to teachers sometimes and various hurtful things my dd has alleged to have done. When I told her I believed issues lay with both dcs she was having none of it saying that her dd never gets jealous, competitive, instigates etc and it is all my dds fault (which it isn't) basically implying that her dd is perfect and our dd has issues because of our parenting. Also said she thought I was depressed - I'm very, very happy - family, friends, work, home, hobbies and certainly not depressed!
Our dd has no other issues with any other child and indeed looks out for a lot of smaller children at school we have never been called into school about her behaviour etc but other dds mother will not accept that her dd could be in any way at fault (but all dcs have their faults). Told me I had not apologised when I clearly said I was in the wrong and to boot said I was lying as I made my way out (this woman hadn't even read the e-mail I sent at this time but I told her what was in it anyway) it seemed she used the occasion to attempt to psychoanalyse me and vent over past issues (all said with her raising her voice, struggled to get a word in edge ways)
Sorry about this rant but how can you move forward with someone who wont agree that sometimes she or her dd is in the wrong so frustrating. Weird how she expected me to open up to her when straight away she made it out to be all our problem! DD now removed from club and hoping to join another much to my relief.