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Original poster

To have got cross at the postman.

26 replies

Thornita17 · 18/01/2014 22:00

I was waiting all morning for the postman to show for my parcels today till about 3pm... Thats fine its a Saturday I understand it being later... I eventually decided said parcels were not arriving today and went to take poochie out for a walk when as I locked up and started walking down road I got called out. Postman was stalking down road after me and thrust parcels in my hands saying I should be more patient?! Poochie wagged her tail and went to sniff (arms full of parcels couldnt stop her) and he snaps at me to keep dog back. He then stalks away and drives off...

O.o
Is this unreasonable to be cross with him? Have i missed something regarding saturday deliveries or what?
Should i let it just go as a bad day for him or maybe complain?

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LindyHemming · 18/01/2014 22:04

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curiousuze · 18/01/2014 22:09

This is a strange story.

LukeAtMe · 18/01/2014 22:10

I'm going to hazard a guess that there's a little bit missing in that there story!

littlemisssarcastic · 18/01/2014 22:11

What made the postman say you should be more patient? Confused

Pimpf · 18/01/2014 22:12

Yabu. He's not psychic, You should be pleased that he followed you to give you your parcel.

How does he know your dog is friendly, he may well have had many bad encounters with dogs.

Hiphopopotamus · 18/01/2014 22:13

What? Hmm

Why do you have to wait in for the postman?

picnicbasketcase · 18/01/2014 22:13

Unless you saw him coming, waited til he was visibly outside your property and then shouted 'for fucks sake, clearly these parcels aren't coming, I'm going out' in his earshot, I don't really understand.

TallGiraffe · 18/01/2014 22:14

Is your poochie the kind of dog that gnaws through ankles and you say she's just kissing?

HaveYouHeardOfGoogle · 18/01/2014 22:14

Grin Picnic got it spot on

ShatnersBassoon · 18/01/2014 22:17

Does said poochie always wag said tail before attacking said postman?

Don't wait in for parcels, by the way. It is the biggest waste of time in the whole wide world.

lottiegarbanzo · 18/01/2014 22:19

Um, you got your parcels, that's really lucky given you went out isn't it?

Surely they undertake to deliver at any time in the working day, don't they?

Lots of people don't like dogs. It shouldn't be any surprise, or at all unusual that someone would want to keep their distance from your dog.

WorraLiberty · 18/01/2014 22:23

I don't get why he said you should be more patient either, unless you've forgotten something OP?

Fakebook · 18/01/2014 22:24

Confused...did you run after the postman?

justjemima · 18/01/2014 22:41

I don't understand this story.

redshifter · 18/01/2014 22:42

YABVVU

ISeeYouShiverWithAntici · 18/01/2014 22:45

That's weird.

unless you said something why on earth would he say you should be more patient?

you had a pop at him, didnt you?

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Thornita17 · 18/01/2014 23:42

Shit I missed a massive chunk.
I made huge order over last few days. I'd rather wait in and make their lives easier than make them take the parcels back to depot and at 33 weeks pregnant I'm finding it quite difficult to get to town and back ect.

As I left house I got a few meters down road when he called out at me. He was by my side passage and I hadnt seen him as left through front door and he came after me then.
I apologized and said I had been in all day and hadnt seen him a moment ago and tried to put the leash on my wrist to take parcels.

What I mean is he saw I hadnt seen him down my side bit yet he continued to get angry at me despite me trying to explain. I know full well I d9nt have to wait on him, its just frustrsting to leave house after 12 ish when post usually comes because i always manage to miss it. And no my dog isnt a ankle kisser cheers shes a good little husky who put her fucking nose forward to sniff the air between us and wagged her tail im greeting. He has no issue with her usually considoring he comew in back gate all the time and shoos her welcome away.

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Thornita17 · 18/01/2014 23:44

Id understand if she dived on him or tried to have his bollocks off for being a postman.

All I am asking is am I being unreasonable for considoring complaining. His attitude seems plain uneeded.

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WorraLiberty · 19/01/2014 00:09

Yeah just let it go

It seems like you were both wound up

KeatsiePie · 19/01/2014 07:56

I'd let it go b/c probably not worth it to complain. But it sounds like you were perfectly nice and he was very much not so YANBU to be a bit offended.

And I know plenty of people don't like dogs much and that is fine. But if you call out to someone who is walking their dog, asking them to approach you, and then thrust a bunch of stuff into their arms so that they can no longer keep the dog 6 feet away from you, and the dog does no more than stick its nose out and wag, you are being a dick if you then yell at them for not controlling the dog better.

CailinDana · 19/01/2014 08:10

I agree with keatsie. I don't like dogs but if I strode up to you and stuffed things in your arms especially while you're pregnant I would expect the dog to be pretty miffed. A wagging tail and a sniff is nothing.
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CailinDana · 19/01/2014 08:11

He sounds stressed. Not that that's any excuse.

KeatsiePie · 19/01/2014 08:37

Good point, the dog must be quite well-behaved to not get at all defensive when a person is thrusting things at you while using an angry tone and you are pregnant.

I think maybe he does have an issue with her though, or is afraid of her, since you say he always shooes her away when she welcomes him -- not that she has done anything wrong, but maybe he has long been wishing he didn't encounter her when he goes in your gate. So this incident was stress of being late + previous dislike of dog.

BoffinMum · 19/01/2014 08:43

I got to know a postman socially recently, and I was pretty appalled at the amount of dog attacks he had experienced, and he is by no means anti-dog. So I can see why the postie would be nervous, even though it was off your premises.

I also learned that the targets set for them in terms of deliveries are fairly unreasonable, so it sounds like you have a stressed employee there, as others have said.

I would overlook it and be extra nice to said postie in future.

LukeAtMe · 19/01/2014 10:52

It could be as simple as you telling him you'd been waiting in all day coming across as snotty. He misreads that and is defensive because it's not his fault if you've sat in like a lemon. And the dog thing, he might always dislike your dog but has to pretend to politely shoo it away because he has to be polite to the people he delivers too. Inside he's probably thinking FUCK OFF DOG! This time he just let it show because he was already stressed.

I think ywbu to complain because it's all just miscommunication.