To think I'm officially a prude and an old bag !

[Tinkertaylor1]

Sat her with dh, dd1(18) and dd bf (22) watching tv, usual Saturday night shit.

Dd1 has been going out with bf for over a year but has only really had him round a few times. She mostly stays at his place.

I keep watching them out the corner of my eye. I can't help it. She is rubbing his knee and he just kissed her foot while casually talking to db.

They are cuddled up under a blanket

What happened to sitting politely and being shit scared in front of your potential in laws? And as I mother I'm pretty scary.

I'm not jealous as me and dh are very touchy feely but it feel weird this young man in my house playing smoochy with my PFB dd.

They have gone up to bed turning my mind off dh is happy as he now has his corner of the couch back

**disclaimer he is actually a nice lad, adores her and handsome too, but still........

Well I'll join you in the prude/old bag corner! Intimate they may be, and thats natural..but I dont want even a hint of it visible to me thanks. I find it easier to bail out upstairs when my DDs BFs visit, they have the front room to themselves (with me upstairs, bedroom door wide open listening for..umm...stuff) God knows how my heart copes with the strain of it all In my day BF could come round, we had to sit in front room with door open and he had to begone at 9pm

I never allowed any boyfriends anywhere near my parents so I think you'll find the fact that she feels comfortable enough around you to do it shows your relationship with her is in great shape. Also if, as you've said, you've demonstrated affectionate, intimate behaviour around her and are relaxed about staying over, you can't expect them to put on some kind of formal act in front of you. My parents have never known who I really am because I always feel I have to act a certain, stiff way in front of them - and I'm 38! It's not nice. I can understand why you're a bit squeamish about it but far better to put your discomfort to the back of your mind and celebrate your closeness instead.

Meat cleaver. Carving steel. Zip. Zip. Zip. Zip...

A bit of an over reaction. It was hardly like he was bending her over the coffee table.

So I'm 22. Boyfriend is quite a bit older. I'm in my parents house when not at university, and boyfriend has stayed many, many times in the two years we've been together.

Never have we kissed in front of my parents. I think after a year or so we started cuddling a little more, my legs on his lap, his arms around me, but I wouldn't be comfortable with even mild PDA in front of my parents, not being married to boyfriend yet. And my parents are very affectionate to each other! Just seems odd and not respectful to have PDA in front of my parents. We're a little more lax around his parents, we've kissed (pecks) and cuddled straight off.

Perhaps I'm a young prude?

There are two types of mother in the world:

1. those that are uncomfortable with the idea of some randy bastard exploring their daughters' insides

and

2. those who claim not to be.

'Randy bastard'?

Anyone would think girls never get randy...

What's PDA

I think it's fair to expect a similar level of public affection from older teens as the level shown by the parents iyswim.

This exactly IMO and IME

My mother and father never touched each other in public at all. Evenings always spent in separate chairs, sitting nicely :) ... and i would have rather died than kissed or touched or 'lolloped' about with a BF in front of them.

DH and i, however, are very touchy feely. Always lounge next to each other on the sofa all evening and hold hands/stroke legs, arms while watching telly (nothing sexual). The 2 of my DDs with BFs seem to be happy to copy us really. They'll sit on the other sofas, leaning together, bit of arm stroking, the odd peck on the cheek. Head on shoulder, etc It's nice.

I have noticed my mum looking sideways at DH and i in the past and now i see her a bit cat bum about DDs and their BFs.

I wouldn't like to see or do snogging in the family room, or touching privates, obviously, and the kids will copy what they see as acceptable behavior.

PDA = public displays of affection.

My dd is nearly 3 but I'm dreading the day she introduces her bf to me. SHE'S MYYY BABY! I think i'll poke him out the house with sticks :). As for the leg rubbing you should've asked if he had an itch lol

Next time he comes over your just going to have to do loud coughs every time he even looks at her,I'm also a fan of the one foot on the floor at all times approach.

(Actually I'm just joking)

Dh was NOT happy when we went to bed, dd1 had swopped his pillows for the shitty flat spare ones we have to give to bf

Without asking? I'd be a bit unimpressed with that.

I do agree that if you're touchy feely, then your children will be too.

I would not be impressed with touchy feelies going on under my nose but it doesn't bother me if my teen/young adult ( DC x 4) long term partners sleep over - I am not sure if I am a prude or not