to expect people to turn up on time!

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Me and DP have invited his Dsis and BIL over for takeaway. They said they would pick up takeaway on the way to ours. Expecting them at 7 , still waiting now at 7.35 .
AIBU to be mighty pissed off??

I hate to be kept waiting , especially when I'm hungry. No 'sorry we're going to be late text' either.

And I rushed around last minute getting plates, glasses, wine etc ready..and now I'm sat here twiddling my thumbs with hunger rage

Still not there?

Ah I hate this!!! My fiances family are all like this, thankfully he didn't get the 'late' gene!

they turned up at 20.10 :\ they said they couldn't get away from BIL DM. Would still have liked a text though. we text asking if all was OK. I hate eating past 730 DP was starting to pace the floor as he was so hungry. it must be in their genes as DP always used to be late.

We were expecting guests today too. They were due to arrive at 5pm, I cooked. At 6pm I get a message to say sorry they were running really late, so I text back to say no worries, see you soon. By 8pm I was starving so ate myself. Still waiting now, don't think they are coming ...

wow afro how rude! you know not to invite them for dinner again!

That is really rude, afro! I can't believe people think it's appropriate to act like this.

Did they ever turn up?
Hope that's the last time you invite them

Lateness makes me furiously bat shit crazy! I find it to be one of the most irritating forms of passive aggressive behaviour and reads that the person is simply not interested enough to make the effort to be on time. I have cut back on the time I spend with a particular friend who was constantly late...usually by more then a half hour, with intermittent apologetic texting. By the time he managed to arrive, I'd be seething and not enjoy whatever we had planned. Just not worth it.

YANBU! I get super annoyed by lateness ESPECIALLY when food/hunger is involved! A text takes 5 seconds & is really just common curtesy these days!

I was annoyed because we'd had lunch at 1... so by 8 we were starving. I've never understood lateness, I'm always bang in time or a few minutes early.

DP is rushing around at last minute and running out the door. hes the biggest faff!

I hate lateness too! Especially if you have cooked or are waiting to eat!

I hate it when people are very late, but I also hate it if they are bang on time or, God forbid, early. I think it's rude to be early (speaking as someone who is still rushing around minutes before guests are due, trying to get everything ready).

I think people should call. But I don't get how someone can be pacing the floor with hunger at 7.30pm. Surely they ate lunch or something that day? On a usual day my toddler children will eat at 9am, 1/2pm, and 8pm. Poss a piece of fruit late afternoon.

Lateness is the one thing that is guaranteed to rage me! I have one particular friend that is late for EVERYTHING! I rush around getting ready for her and then spend 45 minutes twiddling my thumbs waiting for her!

The worst time to be late though is at the hospital after you've just had a baby! OH's family were coming at 11am before the next set of visitors were due in. I had tried to plan everyone coming for when baby was not due a feed (I did not want to have his entire family watching as I tried miserably to latch DD on). By the time they call 2 hours later!) we have unexpected visitors! So when they did arrive they had to come in in shifts because there was too many people

Why can't people just be ON TIME?!

YANBU, I loathe lateness. I'm never late, even with 2 kids in tow.

I think 7.30 is massively early to be eating if you are having people around though, 8.30/9pm is the norm for guests. We usually have a couple of drinks and a few nibbles before even thinking about serving up.

YANBU - the very least they could have done is let you know they were going to be late. As for those posters who have people turn up late when they are cooking for them: how bloody rude are their guests?!

My DSis has PIL who are always late - usually more than an hour late - and it understandably drives her and her DH nuts. PIL are really disorganised if they are entertaining and I don't think they give any consideration to anyone else being any different. Plus her FIL is a controlling bugger who never modifies his plans to accommodate anyone else. He just does what he wants to do then eventually gets in the car and sets off!

The worst example of their poor behaviour was a few months ago when PIL and her BIL were due for lunch, turned up over an hour and a half late, without BIL who hadn't had the manners to say he wasn't going to make it. Everyone else, including two small children, was ready to eat their own arm, we were so hungry, so we just started without them. Her DH texted his mother to let them know as we'd all been waiting.

glad I'm not the only one!

eating at 6.30/7 ish is the norm in our house. Plus they needed to leave early as their MIL was babysitting and didn't want them staying too late (not past 10). we had ate lunch earlier and DP had been doing jobs..so was also tired.

I just think a quick text wasn't impossible.

I nearly started a similar thread yesterday only I wouldn't have had time to keep coming back to it so didn't :)

YANBU!

We have a ten day old and a toddler. If someone arranges to visit the baby at 1pm I have everything timed as well as possible to clear that space and be ready.

While my DH is still off work I've been taking the chance to pop out by myself even for half an hour every day, but it has to be timed around bf every couple of hours!

I don't intend to get PND this time so pandering to everyone else's timing isn't happening.

They hadn't left their house by half one and it was a half hour drive, meaning by the time they arrived over an hour late I would be nursing again and miss my outing.

So I told them not to come and I'd see them another time.

They missed their slot I'm afraid - I'm being ruthless this time around

Lateness is the rudest thing ever. I'm always early as I can't bare to be late for anything, even by a few minutes. DB's partner is without fail always late, she's a lovely person but just doesn't seem to be able to organise herself to be where she is on time.

I always wonder how these people manage to hold down jobs without getting the sack?

I HATE lateness!! I have a friend who is always late for everything, we tell her we're meeting half an hour before we actually are so that she's on time.
My colleague is late EVERYDAY by 30-45 mins and gives lame excuses - there was traffic/ I missed the bus etc. I can understand once or twice but everyday?! Get up earlier and catch an earlier bus.

I am always early or on time, unless there is a bloody good reason not to be, then I always phone or text!

I think YANBU to get cross if family turning up with a takeaway are not bang on time. cannot think of a more relaxed arrangement.
If you had cooked some marvellous dinner I could get it.
"invite them for dinner"? Tcha, come on, it's a takeaway.
Agree they should have texted you but you should relax - unless they are repeat offenders.