Am I being unreasonable/silly or have I got a point?

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I have a christening next month and it's the child of some friends from back home. We plan to stay the weekend and have a bit of a girls night. I know all the girls going on the night and they are all super fit and trim. I'm not, never have been, and have put 2 stone on since I saw them last. AIBU to think they will think badly of me?

You are being daft
Do you think you would care less about one of your friends if they put on weight?
If not, why do think you friends will be more shallow than you?

if they think badly of you, they're not worth bothering about.

Well if they're that shallow they're not very good friends are they?

Of course they won't! If they do then they're idiots.

If you have put on weight they may notice (but they may not). But if they have any sensitivity they won't mention it.

Besides you'll all hopefully be having too much fun catching up, having a dance and a drink

Why do you worry they will think badly of you? You say you've never been super fit, how did they handle this before? Do they accept you or have they made negative comments in the past? That might predict how they will react. If they are really your friends they shouldn't treat you differently, they should care more about catching up. I have friends who are bigger than me and friends who are smaller than me, it's not an issue.

People who are willing to judge you over something like weight are not worth your time and effort. True friends don't care about your appearance, they care about you as a person.
Go and have a fantastic time!

I just see my friends as 'them' as in the whole person. I see them for who they are in and out. I honestly don't think of any of my friends as the size of their body, they are just 'them'.

True friends wont give a hoot that you've gained abit of weight.
Go there with your head held high and have a fantastic night

If they are your friends they won't think badly of you at all. They are friends of yours because they like you, and you them.

They might notice that you've put on weight, but that's not the same as thinking badly of you. They want your company, not your clothes. For all you know now, one or more of them might have put on weight too.

there's also every chance some of them may have gained - or lost - weight. It just means you're wearing a different dress size to the one you wore when you last saw them. so what? Nobody will care I am sure.

understandable, and its nothing to do with them being terrible friends, it's about your own confidence. you can, if it would give you a coincidence boost, give yourself the next few weeks to lose half a stone, possibly more. I am sure it would make you feel better when you see them.

I've met up with a group of school friends over the years & a couple of them seem to change size fairly regularly. Doesn't change anything between us.

I understand your anxiety but real mates don't give a fuck what a friend looks like.

Relax and enjoy the night out!

Oh love

I know you must be conscious of your weight gain but im sure your friends wont give a shit x

Your weight might become an issue if they have to carry you home, but not otherwise.

And the chances are that a few of them have put on a pound or two.

Go and enjoy yourself!

I think it's cos the last time I saw them is lost 2 stone and everyone said how well I looked and I've put it back on.
But you're right. And they're really lovely people too. I'll give myself a good talking to.

I understand exactly where you are coming from. But your friends love you because you are you, if dress size comes into it, then they cease to be definable as 'friends'.

Enjoy your night

One of my friends is always losing a lot of weight, then putting a lot back on again.

Whenever she's lost weight I do always tell her how good she looks as I know it's hard to lose weight and takes a lot of effort.

When she's put on weight I don't think bad things about her. She's my friend and I love her for who she is not what her dress size is.