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issue with neighbours

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RussianBlu · 18/01/2014 13:32

Some new neighbours moved in opposite me recently, say a few months ago. We are in blocks of flats where the windows face each other exactly and it is possible to see very clearly into the windows of the people opposite. I can also see into the neighbours below and above but of course much easier with the people opposite on the same floor as me. Excuse the rambling. We all have tiny kitchens, not really possible to fit more than 2 people in, 1 is preferable really. The window is where the sink is. Nobody has curtains or blinds in their kitchen. I don't know why this is. I feel that because the kitchen is so tiny it would make the place kind of cluttered and very dark.
My problem is that they appear to be a group of flat sharers. They are rather over amorous an I am fed up of having to watch them at each other each time I am in the kitchen. Its kind of annoying to have to try not to look out of the window when washing up especially as its right in front of my face. My main issue is that I have children and I don't really want them to wander into the kitchen and see what they are up to. I'm not just talking about a hug and a peck on the cheek. I have actually had to ask then to get ready and go to bed because of what was going on.
So I know I could have blinds fitted at my expense and keep them closed all the time though I already keep most of my living room curtains closed as does pretty much everyone else so I feel like we are shutting out the light quite a lot already. Would I be unreasonable to stick a note up on their main door asking people to try and remember that we can all see clearly into each others kitchen windows and that there are some things that children (and other adults) don't really want to see? Or am I being totally unreasonable and should I pay someone to fit blinds for me and live with even less natural light?

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YouTheCat · 18/01/2014 13:38

Point and laugh every single time. They'll get paranoid and put up blinds.

LastingLight · 18/01/2014 13:41

You could certainly try the note although tbh I doubt if that will change their behaviour.

Goldmandra · 18/01/2014 13:45

Point a camera at them whenever you see it and pretend to be photographing or videoing them.

aquashiv · 18/01/2014 13:47

Don't worry it wont last

RussianBlu · 18/01/2014 13:48

Thanks for the replies everyone. I'm glad to hear I'm not being an old prude!I also know that the note may not be of much use but I would at least feel I had said something. I do think I might start waving at them soon!!!

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YoullNeedATray · 18/01/2014 13:49

Make some big score cards to show them?

thedogwakesuptoodamnearly · 18/01/2014 13:50

Hold up scorecards Grin

thedogwakesuptoodamnearly · 18/01/2014 13:50

Ha ha! Snap!

ISeeYouShiverWithAntici · 18/01/2014 13:53

You can get that film stuff that frosts the window but doesnt reduce the light.

so you wont see anything but the light will still stream in.

Will try to find link

matildamatilda · 18/01/2014 13:54

It's easier to address these things if you assume they just don't realise. Go over and bring an apple pie or something and after some chitchat say, "I don't mean to embarrass you but the way our windows are, we can see right into your kitchen. A couple of times I've looked up and been like, 'Oh no!'"

PerditaXDream · 18/01/2014 13:57

A more practical solution might be to get some of that film that you apply to your window for a frosted glass effect. It shouldn't stop light coming through but if you put it on the lower half of the window it would stop your kids seeing.

But I like score cards too!

PerditaXDream · 18/01/2014 13:57

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StephenKatz · 18/01/2014 14:01

Just do this Grin

Alisvolatpropiis · 18/01/2014 14:22

What You said.

Maybe start blaring Let's Get It On at the same time.

Pinkspottyegg · 18/01/2014 14:24

Put up a big sign in your window that says "we can see you shagging you know" they probably have no idea. It's like those folk who pick their nose in the car. Think they are invisible

WitchWay · 18/01/2014 16:42

Set up a telescope pointing their way Grin

Seriously I think a shagging sign is an excellent idea.

JenBehavingBadly · 18/01/2014 16:44

Print out some score cards and hold one up each time you see them. Maybe they'll rethink when someone is given them a mark out of 10.

Applauding loudly may work too.

SeaSickSal · 18/01/2014 17:13

I think you need to get blinds or the frosting.

When neighbours are doing something which is impacting on your life in an absolutely unavoidable way like noise, or dirt which is attracting pests or something like that then it's a problem.

But when it's something you can easily deal with by doing something cheap and simple like putting up blinds then frankly it's your problem.

I think if you complain they will just laugh at you. If you tell them to put up blinds I think they could quite reasonably respond why don't you put up blinds?

RussianBlu · 18/01/2014 17:36

Thank you all for you humorous replies. I did consider sticking a note up at my window! Thank you Iseeyoushiver for the practical advice and link. I will most likely be getting some of the stick on film. I was unaware it existed and like the idea much more than blinds.

Seasicksal I don't really see why it is my problem and that I should be laughed at by them should I mention it. They don't need to put up blinds and I don't see that I should have to either but they should have the decency to consider others around them. I am also not convinced that they don't realise people can see them when they can easily see me when I'm in my kitchen.

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Tulip26 · 18/01/2014 17:42

I would suggest cheering, loudly, builder style. "Wahay!"

Also, blast "Like a Virgin" out of the window at them...

Merguez · 18/01/2014 17:42

I would stick a note up in your window, saying something a bit jokey, maybe referring to your kids as well.

They are probably just not aware, and would be mortified if they thought kids could see what they are up to.

RussianBlu · 18/01/2014 17:43

Thanks everyone, you have all cheered me up with the situation!

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