IABU I know this... (light-hearted)...(kind of)

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I know I am being unfair to say that in soooooooo many posts on AIBU I really just want to respond (wo)man the f**k up.

Like I said I know I am being unfair but seriously there must be people who agree with me here.

(I would like to point out, I tend not to say this just really want to)

YABU.

In most cases someone has posted for advice.

Woman the fuck up is shit advice.

I do honestly think this a lot

But it's not just the OP, a lot of the time it's the advice given by other posters.

In particular, when someone has a problem with their neighbour's parking/rubbish bins/noise...the advice is often to "Pop a note through the door".

Or if they have a fairly run of the mill problem with a friend/family member, the advice is often to email or text them.

When did simply smiling and speaking to people become so low down on the list of ways to resolve simple thing?

I do think this sometimes. Same.reasons as worra

I have never heard of people popping notes through letter boxes. If there's an issue people talk and sort it.

I have never emailed anyone I have an issue with, I can phone or see them face to face.

I never use my emails to contact people. Its full of junk and used for signing up to things

I truthfully am not referring to people who are asking for genuine advice. Like I said Happygoluckygirl it is light-hearted.

I know you have said your post is lighthearted - however,

I can't stand that phrase or the male equivalent.

I know you aren't referring to people with genuine issues but my experiences are...

I work with teenagers and typically find if one expresses that they are unhappy or struggling, they are told by their peers to (as you and they put it) , 'man the fuck up'. This i have seen as a response to worries about pregnancy, abortion, bereavement, sexually transmitted infections, abuse, bullying, exam stress, parental divorce, body image..

I just think it's the wrong way to deal with things and generally used by those who don't know how to help or feel uncomfortable. I am not saying that is you but it's my experience with young people. The ones who can't cope with emotion are the ones who block it by saying 'man up'.

People's problems are relative to themselves. What can seem easy to me will seem a nightmare to another and vice versa.. But when they find it difficult and I don't, I don't think that gives me the right to tell them to man up. Unless in a supportive 'don't be a doormat' type way..

We all have 'firsts', none of us are born with a complete guide to life and we all struggle with things/can be inclined to whinge or panic. Experience and support generally batts panic and moaning away.

But telling someone to man up generally fixes zilch. If anything, it causes more problems than anything. Even the bloody words emphasise the 'hard nut guy' image.. I just can't stand it.

I agree actually. All these MIL threads! What happened to the concept of two grown women, having a grown up chat about boundaries?

And the farking parking threads! Gah- cant get worked up.

And all the work threads - don't people know how to behave in a professional manner?

I think some posters should be asking not AIBU, but 'have I lost my moral compass/common sense/gumption/balls?' Though I accept HILMMCCSGB is not quite as catchy as AIBU :)

Yabu. Not everyone has the same personality or the same ability to speak up. Not all of the other parties in posts are your average adult who will respect someone having a grown up chat. It's very easy to say woman up if you've managed to overcome your own shyness and have reached that point where you can't really empathise anymore or have confidence anyway and have never struggled.

And it's shit advice too.