Or is DP? (Kids rooms)

[TheNightIsDark]

We have a 3 bed townhouse. 3 bedrooms on top floor (mine, DS1&2 and DD), 1 bedroom on ground floor (DSDs). Before we bought a new bed for her, decorated her room etc we triple checked with DSD (6.9) if she was ok about being down there and she was.
That was a year ago. My stepdad bought DS1 and DD mid sleeper beds with tents around the same time. DDs only turned up 6 months ago. I think they were about £160 each or something

DSD is here EOW. Last visit she suddenly became scared of being on her own and has been sleeping on floor of DDs box room. She told DP today that she wants to share with DD and get bunk beds. DP is perfectly fine with this. I said ok but we store the mid sleeper in the garage until baby DS2 is big enough. DP said no. It's his garage sbd it's not being filled with crap. We'll sell the mid sleeper.

The girls had bunk beds. DSD wanted her own room. I'm expected to just get rid of DDs bed on the whim of a 6y/o who will probably change her mind in a month or so.

I want to keep things as they are, get a ready bed for when DSD wants to sleep in DDs room or DD wants to sleep in DSDs room. DP wants to get rid of 2 pretty new beds and get bunks again.

AIBU? I know DSD needs to feel welcome but it's such a waste of money when she changes her mind again.

*4 bed townhouse

YANBU she can just have 'sleepover nights' in her sister's room till she gets over it

I assume you can't store it in stepdaughter's room?

I don't blame her for not wanting to be so far away, though.

Nope because DP wants it to be a playroom. I said this would happen when we decorated the room for her but they were both adamant it wasn't.
She has a monitor in there and an old mobile with DPs number in so she phones up if she's lonely or just comes and sleeps in our bed.

I don't blame her for not wanting to be down there. I think DP is being an arse though.

I get your frustration, but I think being alone on the ground floor is probably more of a big deal than she ever imagined it would be. So I wouldn't be too cross with her. She probably loved the idea of her own room, and never considered how she would feel about where it was. Would any of your children be happy to swap into her room, so she gets to sleep upstairs without buying any new beds?

Can you put bunks in dsd 's room and dd go down there and share with her when she is staying instead?

DS1 might but he's only 4.9 so a bit wary about it.

Apparently she's scared because of a program called deadtime stories? I haven't heard of it so have not a clue what it's about!

Spooked that might work. I'll suggest it.

She was probably being polite and the reality freaked her out. I am ancient and I couldn't sleep on the ground floor. I totally undertand why she is freaked by it. Surely, he can find some space foir a bed in a garage. Doesn't it come apart?

Your DP is being a total arse.

HIS garage?

How the fuck does that work?

And apparently the downstairs bedroom is HIS as well, because he gets to decide what it is used for.

Why do you let him call the shots this way?

YANBU, the ready bed idea is inspired. Then she can still keep all her things in her own room and her own bed she can play on, and she gets the company of dd at night. It seems silly to change everything and redecorate as she could easily change her mind in a year or so. Though I don't blame her for not wanting her to sleep on the ground floor alone.

Oh yes and the "my garage", comment makes him sound a total arse.

I agree with monkey. Keep her room as it is so it's her space and a readybed for sleep.

I wouldn't want to sleep on the ground floor either and I'm not young.

He is an arse. I'm working on throwing him out (tenancy in my name, so actually it's my garage!) he just manages to talk me round.
I'm getting closer to it though

YANBU.

I think the mid-sleeper with tent would be lovely in a playroom - play house underneath, plus reading area on the bed part.

It appears I have just copied the pp comments.

Well if it's your tenancy and your garage, just tell him to fuck off that it's your decision and he'll just have to put up with it.

Or he can sling his hook and you won't stop him.

YANBU

You're DP is being an arse

LTB

That deadtime stories show is a bloody pita op, dd1 (7) watched it once and spent a week sleeping in my bed she was so scared. don't know how they can call it a kids show.

What channel is deadtime stories on ? I've never heard of it.

How does your DD feel about this? She has a lovely new bed and now your partner is proposing to get rid of it...it seems to me that this is all about DSD and your DD is getting a bit lost.

HIBU

Is it a 3 floor townhouse? I would never be happy with dcs sleeping on a different floor, I'm afraid.
If the room ends up being a playroom instead, couldn't a cool cabin bed with tent be part of the play equipment? I can think of lots if games both under and over the bed!

There's no way I'd let my DH get rid of something lovely that was bought for my child by my family. Your DP is an arse and I feel a bit sorry for your dd.

My dd is 15.5 and we have a three floor townhouse. We moved here just before Christmas and she insisted on having the room next to our rather than one on the top floor next to her brother because she felt safer closer to us.