To want to kill my manager?

[ScaredMyBossMightBeOnMN]

My manager is a job-shared role. I told one half of the job share the day I received some bad news that a tumour I had known about for years would have to be removed.

The manager I told went off sick unexpectedly so I informed the other one by e-mail detailing the appointments I have coming up. I hadn't received a reply but she hadn't been in work.

She stopped me in the corridor this morning and started discussing it in public! I was so shocked I didn't stop her.

I'm cross with myself now for being so unassertive.

Don't upset yourself.

Some people (e.g. your manager!) are totally clueless when it comes to sensitive topics of discussion and, often, they can say far too much far too loudly long before you've worked out what to say to shut them up.

Treat today's incident as a learning experience.

Recall the situation in your mind and decide what you should have said to her. Then next time something like that happens, with her or anybody else, you'll be much better equipped to deal it.

Simples (meerkat squeak).

Thanks
I wasn't sure if it was really happening she was talking about referring me to Occupational Health as people passed within centimetres of us.
She offered to refer me for counselling!

I'd have referred her instep to the heel of my shoe!

I very nearly did.

YANBU unless you actually do it!