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To be seduced by a cat?

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Lancashiregirl · 17/01/2014 13:09

Arrghh, he's there again, every day on my windowsill looking at me with big green eyes - crying mournfully, while I try to work.

I've heard from neighbours that he doesn't like his own home (toddlers and new cats) and has run away several times. He keeps trying to wriggle into my home and I've let him in when it's been raining.

But he is also quite plump and clearly not short of a tin of kitty-kat or two. This makes me think he's got other women on the go and is an expert in feline seduction techniques. I've never had any involvement with cats before and am innocent of their wily ways.

Would I be unreasonable to give him some encouragement?

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Blithereens · 17/01/2014 14:13

Oh, let him come in. As long as you like having him there it's fine. You don't need to feed him but there's no reason he can't have a fuss and a sleep.

/sucker for all cats everywhere even ones who are lords in their own homes

FreudiansSlipper · 17/01/2014 14:16

if you are happy being another one on his list go ahead :)

we shall be here for support when you are heartbroken

Terrortree · 17/01/2014 15:31

If you know where he should live, may I suggest you go an speak to their owner as they might not like being cheated on... You never know, they might be willing to let you adopt him if he's not feeling the lurve at home!

Also the cat may be on a diet or may have an allergy (and you're one short step away from giving him treats, aren't you?).

I love anyone who loves cats but encouraging them into your home can be a recipe for upsetting the neighbours.

Proceed with caution!

Terrortree · 17/01/2014 15:33

PS I would be a cat-owner scored if either of my two buttered up to someone else...

Bootycall · 17/01/2014 15:34

sorry op, so you really think you have any day or control in this situation? you definatly don't know cats!

by next week pussy will be curled up in the best seat while you have done a special shop for the best cat food. he winter the cheap stuff!

best if luck.

NewtRipley · 17/01/2014 15:35

Don't encourage him

If someone had done that with my cat when mine were little, she'd have buggered off. But now we have a very chilled, spoiled 17 year old who is an important part of our family.

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Lancashiregirl · 17/01/2014 15:38

Yes, I get the impression that if he was a human male he'd be telling me his wife doesn't understand him.

But he is gorgeous. I know he's after food (like the DCs) and affection (like the DH), but he is so much more furry ...... I think resistance could be futile.

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NewtRipley · 17/01/2014 15:41

Also, this would make you the OW - do you want that on your conscience?
Think of the hurt you will cause those inniocent children when he is taken away from them!
You must have low self-esteem to contemplate taking another woman's left-over pussy. You deserve a cat all of your own.

Don't believe what this cat is saying to you. Bet he still sleeps with her too.

NewtRipley · 17/01/2014 15:41

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MyBaby1day · 18/01/2014 07:32

It sounds like true love to me-go for it!! .
Wishing you many happy years together!!

RubyLovesShopping · 18/01/2014 07:38

Ah just let him in. We have one who did the same, 9 years and 3 rowdy dc later he's still here and never went back.
We did put posters up though

bakingtins · 18/01/2014 07:46

If you know he has a home, leave well alone. Our rescue cat has buggered off to a neighbour's after six years with us. In a year in which we also had to PTS our elderly dog and cat, leaving us effectively pet-less, we are heartbroken about it. Now we are on the situation that we are paying for his insurance, his vaccinations (if we can grab the ungrateful wretch) whilst some thoughtless git makes him fat and ruins his teeth with Whiskas. Get your own cat if you want one, there are plenty needing a good home.

sashh · 18/01/2014 08:00

Talk to his owners.

We used to let the next door neighbour's cat in (they knew) when they kept two of her kittens and then were asked to 'look after for a bit' two other cats and then got a puppy.

Poor Tigger could get no peace at home so would come in for half an hour. But she was never fed and never allowed in at night.

Writerwannabe83 · 18/01/2014 08:11

I'm currently curled up in bed with a cat who seduced me 11 months ago. His beautiful green eyes lured me in and what started off as infrequent visits has now resulted in him moving in with us. He has been a permanent fixture now for about 6 months - his owners are aware and don't care so it's a happy ending all round

MrGeresHamster · 18/01/2014 08:12

My beloved used to come home smelling of perfume... I used to surreptitiously smell the neighbours in a hunt for the OW.

ohfourfoxache · 18/01/2014 08:16

that you think you have a choice!

There is a reason why people say that cats have staff!

thenicknameiwantedisgone · 18/01/2014 08:16

I think you have to talk to the owners. I and the kids would be gutted if someone else let our cats in and encouraged them. You could end up depriving the kids of their family pet. I agree you should get your own.

Your posts sound like you're going to go ahead though, please don't encourage it. Please talk to the owners first before you effectively steal their family pet.

Writerwannabe83 · 18/01/2014 08:17

Happy cats don't go looking for new owners........

MissBeehiving · 18/01/2014 08:23

Have you read Six Dinner Sid?

NewtRipley · 18/01/2014 08:48

Actually, joking aside, it's a CRAP thing to do to another family to encourage him and then keep him

It happened to me when I was a child.

Get your own cat

WhereBeThatBlackbirdTo · 18/01/2014 08:55

Our neighbours cat sat on our doorstep for months, bringing gifts of dead things.

We ignored her but finally gave in after she sat in the rain all day, waiting.

I spent ages worrying if we had d

The neighbours moved away recently and left without a backward glance at her.

WhereBeThatBlackbirdTo · 18/01/2014 08:56

Darn phone!

I spent ages worrying we had done the wrong thing but they knew us and where she was.

IsItMeOr · 18/01/2014 09:02

Go and talk to his owners.

They may be relieved to have him taken off their hands. Or he may be their much loved family member, who will get used to the changes in his home life. Or much loved family member, who they can see isn't coping with the changes in his home life and be delighted that somebody close by is able to help by taking him in.

Morally, you can't just steal somebody else's pet.

harriet247 · 18/01/2014 09:07

My cat goes across the road and lets himself into a nice elderly gentleman s house, I had no idea until the man folliwed him and asked if he was mine! Little traitor! Apparently he sits with him and watches tv and he's glad of the company, I was mortified because the cat is spoilt but we di have a baby so I think the cat needed sanctuary for a couple of hours a day. Id let him in and let the owners know so theyre not worried about him

Sparklingbrook · 18/01/2014 09:14

Sometimes Sparkling Cat comes home smelling of perfume, so i wouldn't be surprised if she has yowed at a neighbours patio door, and they have let her in.

I was the OW once. Male cat was desperate to come in every single day. If the patio doors were open he would stroll in. BUT his owner saw him sat in my bedroom window and came round and demanded I give him his cat back. In a not very nice tone.

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