Dads been dead twenty years but all it took tonight to get me crying like a baby, was Mr Bennet giving Lizzie his blessing to marry.

[bigmouthstrikesagain]

It is so strange. I am not particularly sentimental and I asked dh to marry me! But watching Pride and Prejudice tonight Lizzie's relationship with her father made me yearn for mine. I would have loved dh to have met my Dad. Is father's approval very beneficial for a successful marriage?

Could work either way I imagine, in that a father's disapproval might also be beneficial in the right circumstances.

Actually I got on very well with my Father in Law, which was great, but difficult say what effect that had, but I suppose it has done no harm.

YANBU of course.

A loss like that can 'hit' you at any time.
I think a father's approval is nice, but not crucial for a successful marriage btw. Do you think your DF would've approved of your DH? If yes, there you go.

Dad I think have approved, even if it was just because mum doesn't

I have dreamed about Dad recently - when you wake up thinking he is still alive then remember... that is always hard.

Thank you for the maudlin after a glass of wine I am ... moved on to death in Kimberley that will balance me out!

A toast to your dad x.

Pemberley bloody auto correct!

Thank you he was Liverpool Irish so make the toast a generous measure ;-)

Bless you

It's amazing how suddenly someone can enter our dreams. I do believe it's their way of coming to you. I hope you can take comfort from his presence in your conscience x

Bless you. My sister passed away a while ago & I smelt someone on the train wearing her perfume. I almost passed out from the recognition of the fragrance, it was weird. I madly thought she was there but then realised that she wasn't & it was an instant thing.

Depends. If you are talking about the old BBC version with Elizabeth Garvey then YANBU. If any other version then you are totally unreasonable for considering watching them...

You're missing your Dad and it's reminding you of him

Just don't watch The Railway Children next - that sets me off every time

Its strange isn't it how things can set us off. My own dad died when I was 16, and every day i wish he could have met DH, or my SIl, or the 4 children DB and I have between us. Its not to be though

I cannot watch the Gavin and Stacey wedding episode, where Uncle Bryn is reading the letter out from Staceys deceased dad to her. I have to leave the room or turn it over, it nearly tips me over the edge and I end up in floods.

I hear you. I really struggle at weddings when there is a father and daughter dance. My bosses daughter recently got married and I was cracking up (inside obviously) at all the chat about giving away, the lovely poem she framed to thank him etc etc. my dad died when I was 19.

I don't really know why I'm posting other than to say - you're not alone.

Aww YANBU - it's strange how certain things remind us of someone isn't it?

I lost a close Uncle 14 years ago and before Christmas when in town I walked past a man who could have been mistaken for him. It actually stopped me in my tracks I got back to my car and broke my heart it just brought it all back.

I know my mum still finds it hard to visit her dad's grave and he passed away 24 years ago. She still feels terribly sad that he never met my younger sister.

for you x