To be upset about people's emphasis on us 'hopefully' having a boy after two girls?

[SJBean]

Feeling a bit odd about this and wondering if anyone has had a similar experience? We have two girls already and are 18 weeks pregnant. Obviously if in a hypothetical situation we could choose it would be a boy for the sake of variety. However I love having girls and am one of three girls myself so I'd be totally over the moon with another girl. People have started to annoy me though by constantly focussing on 'but it would be so lovely for you to have a boy wouldn't it?' And making lots of loaded statements to imply this. We weren't going to find out the sex as we didn't with the other two but I am tempted to now as I am getting anxious not about what it is but about everyone else's reactions to the sex which is ridiculous. Because of this in starting to think it would be better to just know! Anyone else had these feelings?

Sadly, I get this all the time. I have 4 dds and am constantly asked if I, or my husband, are disappointed we don't have sons. Nope, I was delighted when dd4 made her appearance. There is something pretty special about having a 'larger' family that are all the same gender.

What seriously fucks me off is when people say this IN FRONT OF MY DAUGHTERS! It'd like they are deaf or wouldn't understand that such a comment may make my beautiful daughters feel unwanted.

So, if I am seriously pissed off, I tell them the truth. I lost my first dd and I should actually have 5dds. I would do anything to have her, gender means nothing to me, a healthy baby means the world....

Op, if you do have a girl, it may be something you have to get used to. I could get this on a daily basis at times. I agree that perhaps some people just have something to say, but I find it massively offensive....

Ive got 3 ds and for the past 8 years I must get some twat one telling me I should try again.
Yes it breaks my heart that I will never have a dd but that doesn't mean I don't love my ds.
We are all so lucky having the children we have..people need to learn to stfu.

Telling me at least once a week...forgot that part.

I had this when I was pg with DC2 from my patients (mainly over retirement age, I didn't get "The Comments" from people my own age)

As it's almost impossible to hide a bump.........
"Oh is it your first"
"No, my second"
"Ohh what have you got already"
"A son, 2yo"
"Oh you'll be wanting a girl..........."

Not "Do you hope for a girl" or "A girl would be nice"

And one lady got annoyed that I wouldn't divulge the sex "If someone's interested enough to ask"

No because it's none of your fecking business I just said the scan wasn't clear.

Thanks to everyone for your replies! I'm feeling better hearing I'm not alone! I can't believe some of the things that have been said to people - shocking. Especially the one about husbands weak sperm (!) and the lady looking in the pram and saying she felt sorry for the poor mum - how hideous - what is wrong with these people! Thank you to the lady who posted about having four girls - that's pretty special :)

We have 3 DDs and both of us are incredibly happy with that (no idea how to look after boys, would have been a total learning curve). But the amount of people after Dd3 who asked if we'd be "trying again then"? made me ragey. We have three children. They happen to be girls, and that's wonderful. But if they'd been boys, or a mixture, any of those outcomes would have been brilliant too, because we like them as people not gender-representatives. (May still be ragey having read back this post...)

I have three DSs and still get the comments about trying again. I have no idea what they mean by again since I never tried for a girl (or a boy for that matter - just tried for a baby!)

When DS3 was a few days old someone said in a sympathetic voice "didn't you want a girl then" as if she expected me to be crying into my tea over not having a girl instead of being so obviously delighted with my new son.

Just wish everyone would realise that the only thing you should say to a new mum is "congratulations! What a beautiful baby"

I love my kids immensely. But reading this thread I am relieved that I have a boy and a girl- haven't had to put up with silly comments and sorry for those of you who have. I had a miscarriage between DS and DD, then a load of drama at DD's birth. I was just glad to come away healthy and with another healthy baby.

It's just a combination of people struggling for some inane comment to say to a pregnant woman - when they really couldn't care less - and the hormonal state of such pregnant woman - who gives undeserved importance to a completely light-hearted comment.