AIBU to think these people are ignorant!

[Weelady77]

A little 3 year old boy has went missing from his house! He was last seen in bed at 9pm last night, his mum got up this morning and he's gone he's still not been found poor mother must be in bits,
I've seen comments on twitter and my friend told me about comments on fb about people slating the mum cause she didn't check on him during the night!!
I check on my kids before I go to bethen in the morning when I wake them but I don't set an alarm for 3am to check them!!
Rather than slate the poor woman they should be out helping the search party find him!
God I hope he's ok poor wee soul

nobody on this thread has blamed the parents. When somethingl ike this happens people speculate, especially wen a child disappears without a trace. to report a thread on the basis people might speculate on it is completely ott. or should any discussion be banned? [hmm[

Yanbu. I hope he is found safe soon.

I put my dc to bed at 8pm, I go in and tuck them in/kiss their heads when I go to bed (anywhere between 11am and 2pm).

Other than that I don't check on them, unless I'm going to the toilet. They sleep with their door open and I have to pass their room to get to the bathroom so can see them. And actually I can't always see ds1 as I pass the room as he's on the top bunk and often sleeps against the wall.

No one whose children sleep through would check on them in the night except if they woke for another reason. Those comments are awful, what a scary thing to happen and I do hope he is found.

Though I agree its a "fear" that you can ignore if the parents did something "wrong" and was my initial instinct, they must have left the door open, the window, its an inside family thing, they surely heard something etc etc.

Your mind goes there automatically because if it really is as simple as going to bed and getting up and they aren't there then it could happen to me. However most rational, nice people wouldn't state those fears as fact because they are unfair and unfounded and unhelpful!

booty I get your point but its the internet, free speech and all that, I don't think OP is wrong to start the thread.

I check on dd before I go to bed then leave her to sleep through unless she sneaks in with me during the night. It's disgusting how cruel people can be behind keyboards

Report a thread I case someone says something they shouldn't? Isn't that all threads then.

er most threads aren't ongoing police investigations are they?

just because we feel anonymous here we really arnt.

just think it's best to be very careful. up to others posters what they do.

Plenty are Madeline is on going. Doesn't automatically mean people can not discuss it without dropping themselves in the shit.

I understand you want to be careful and respect that. Its the reporting the thread just in case another adult says something they shouldn't is a bit OTT.

And your not really leaving it to other posters by reporting it.

I am leaving it to other posters to post/report/speculate as they want.

I reported as I thought that was right. we all can only do what is right and this is clearly a fast moving live investigation.

yes you can get 'in the shut' by discussing RL and identifying people on here!

it's the internet and people can sue or affect investigations.

Where has anyone put anything that is potentially illegal. And how does it effect you/ that's my point. You said you would leave it to other posters.

We obviously disagree.

well, sky news don't seem to have any issue with identifying people, they're interview the neighbours and all and sundry. a child disappears some time between 9:00 at night and 7:15 in the morning without a trace and people think that others shouldn't speculate? get real.

" people think that others shouldn't speculate? get real."

It doesn't matter what "people" think, only what MNHQ thinks.

Speculation is often deleted from this site. That's the reality. Because this counts as publication, and MNHQ don't appear to want the hassle. If you want to speculate about an ongoing investigation, the advice is often to take it somewhere else.

Nobody has speculated anything apart from sympathy for the mum

of course it's what mumsnet is all about! agree to disagree.

just feel as this is a RL ongoing police investigation involving a child then it's distasteful to speculate.

it's not a mil/ bride/ parking/ thread this is RL.

sky are despicable as always.

I hate the fact people are blaming the mum.
Imagine this scenario - her next door neigbour has exact same family, same amount of kids, same age, same flat etc.
She checks on them at 11pm when she goes to be and 1am as she wakes in the night for a wee - would people say its her fault if her kid had the same thing happen to him?

People also need to remember having your keys hidden away at the bottom of handbags in cupboards when the doors are locked is a fire risk. Would people be saying she should have left her door unlocked if they had all died in a fire?
NONE of us are perfect!

*goes to bed.

The latest news:
"Mikaeel's Mum Detained As Body Discovered"
news.sky.com/story/1197026/mikaeels-mum-detained-as-body-discovered

So tragic