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To think he's not that into me?

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superstarheartbreaker · 15/01/2014 23:29

Just had a huge row with soon to be ex dp. It just seems that he always wants me to travel to his. I don't mind and he does sometimes come to mine but recently he has been moaning on and on about how skint he is and how he cannot afford the petrol to see me.
It is half an hour away and it would cost him about a fiver. I'm not asking him to come over every frigging night... Just one a week or even fortnight. So he's too skint to afford a fiver a fortnight to see me?
Initially we agreed on alternating visits but recently I've been doing all the running. He's on at least 18,000 a year but pays maintenance .
Even so I still earn less than him and have to pay for sitters. He told he I must get more than him what with my benefits. I told him he comes across as tight, controlling an dun romantic. He says I have judged him unfairly and has thrown his toys out of the pram. He is not talking. So who is being unreasonable here? I did apologise as I felt bad for saying that stuff but goodness I was hurt.

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rabbitlady · 17/01/2014 01:41

feel free to express your disappointment in him.

just don't take him your sex.

loveblackcats · 17/01/2014 03:19

Relationship thread

superstarheartbreaker · 17/01/2014 03:23

Can it be moved? I'm awake and feeling very upset by the whole thing. What has really hurt was that I was anxious about my new job. He apparently went off me because he couldn't handle my anxiety. Not a life partner is he?

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missymarmite · 17/01/2014 06:26

Oh God! Run away! He sounds like a selfish, and rather manipulative waste of time. Believe me, I've known a few. Not worth your time. Good luck finding someone who deserves you. There are some wonderful lovely men out there. Just make sure you aren't hanging on to the rubbish ones so long you miss the bus on the nice ones!

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere · 17/01/2014 06:29

Superstar, ask MNHQ to move the thread to Relationships. Hope you are ok today. By all accounts your ex was not worth your time or energy at all!

superstarheartbreaker · 17/01/2014 06:36

Hr alays makes him self serm so hard done by. He is slways moaning about paying the £250 maintenance per month. Even so what got mr that if he is earning £2000 per month plus then he should have plenty of cash left over to live an ok lifestyle. To me this just either screams tight arsehole or serious gambling as I know he bets on horses. Either way I think I will be declining my friendship ad he has behaved like adick hasnt he?of course he is satinv that the anxiety regarding my new job drove him away.

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superstarheartbreaker · 17/01/2014 06:37

Feeling shit but looking foward to wine and fags after work. Its the hurt that someone you love has been mean. It is horrid.

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