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DDs going away on my birthday?

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Hadmeathello · 15/01/2014 20:22

Every year my teen DDs go a fri-sun camping trip with a club they go to. They love it and look forward to catching up with people they've met in previous years.
This year the fri of the camping trip falls on my 40th birthday. I'm not planning a huge celebration but would like to organise a family meal out with my parents and siblings. Would it be awful of me to ask them not to go camping this year to accommodate my birthday? I genuinely have no clue if this is unreasonable or not?

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Thetallesttower · 15/01/2014 22:10

If it were a regular event say every week or month though I would expect them to stay home that Friday.

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Hadmeathello · 15/01/2014 22:24

Thanks all. I'll probably do something with DH and DS(8) on my actual birthday but loving all the suggestions for turning it into a week long celebration. Think I'll aim for that.

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Hadmeathello · 15/01/2014 22:25

Thanks all. I'll probably do something with DH and DS(8) on my actual birthday but loving all the suggestions for turning it into a week long celebration. Think I'll aim for that.

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Thetallesttower · 15/01/2014 22:27

Or you could ask your teens what they would rather do? You are assuming they would rather go to the camp, but when they hear you are having a fun weekend without them, they might change their mind:)

Topaz25 · 16/01/2014 12:10

You could organise your big birthday celebration for another day, maybe the next weekend and enjoy doing something small but special on the Friday, like a nice night out without the kids. It would be a shame for them to miss their camping trip since it's only once a year, they've been looking forward to it and it helps them build and maintain friendships. Sometimes circumstances mean you can't have the birthday celebration on the actual day.

happygirl87 · 16/01/2014 12:13

I'd either (a) get babysitter for DS and have night with DH on the Fri, then do big family party on following week, or (b) if camping is not too far away could you have meal on the Fri night and you/DH take DD's to camping on Sat morning?

SueDoku · 16/01/2014 13:53

Definitely take the chance to stretch out your celebrations..! When I was 60, I had a meal out with friends on the Saturday before my bday, went for a meal with my DH on the actual date - and then had a big family meal out/party the following weekend - it was great, a whole week of being made much of..!! Enjoy your birthday week Grin Flowers Cake

DumSpiroSpero · 16/01/2014 16:05

Tbh is probably organise a raucous, boozy adult night out while they're away and do a family event the weekend before or after.

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