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I know it's only £10 but .....

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Leogirl73 · 15/01/2014 19:03

My colleague at work asked me to put in the £10 each in for our Xmas gift for our boss there's 6 of us in the office and the other 4 all paid their £10 at the time it's now half way through jan and she keeps saying she will leave it for me but never does !! What would u do ??

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chinley · 15/01/2014 19:05

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BoysRule · 15/01/2014 19:06

I would say "I'm really sorry but I need that £10 I put in for you". If she says she hasn't got any cash then offer to come to the cash point with her - if she looks at you a bit odd then say you are sorry but you are a bit short - January is a really long month.

It's not on.

WhoNickedMyName · 15/01/2014 19:06

I'd make enough of a nuisance of myself that she'd be glad to give me the ten pound back to stop me bugging her.

SuzanneUK · 15/01/2014 19:14

If she's a decent person and genuinely hard up, she'll be more troubled about this debt than you are. You might want to cut her a bit of slack.

However, if she's got the money but is just a cheeky sod, you should grab her around the throat and demand it back.

Figuratively speaking of course.

LongTailedTit · 15/01/2014 19:29

Keep it short.
Brief email tomorrow morning, "Please could you give me the £10 owed by the end of the day, thanks".
Same again each work morning until you patience breaks and you stand over her handbag with a "£10 now please". Grin

Don't mention it in a chat about anything else as it's easily glossed over.

I've a terrible memory for small debts and always appreciate being reminded, however she sounds like she's just avoiding paying you back = cheeky mare.

Biedronka · 15/01/2014 19:33

I'd give her the benefit of the doubt at the moment and assume she is skint and feels crap. I'd make it clear that it's expected back on payday (if you haven't been paid this month already) if she still doesn't offer I'd be brutally blunt and demand it back.

summerlovingliz · 15/01/2014 19:40

I agree, very awkward but u will just have to be assertive and just keep asking til I get itSmile

SuzanneUK · 15/01/2014 19:47

Brief email tomorrow morning, "Please could you give me the £10 owed by the end of the day, thanks".

And the friendship is immediately blown to bits and you're henceforth the bitch from Hell.

BananaNotPeelingWell · 15/01/2014 19:51

Well the friendship is hitting rocky terrain already. How much slack is the op supposed to give suzanne?Confused Maybe wait until June to mention it again?Hmm

Ledkr · 15/01/2014 19:56

This happened to me so I asked her to pay on for my coffee money.
Do you have a similar thing you could do.
I hate it when people owe you small amounts cos you feel mean asking for it.
I've a friend who always asks me to get her stuff from town or shops then never pays. Pisses me off.

DoItTooJulia · 15/01/2014 19:58

Get her on payday!

WhoNickedMyName · 15/01/2014 20:07

Cut her a bit of slack

Assume she is skint and feels crap

Give her till payday

It's just after Christmas... We're all skint... I'd quite like some soft touch to sub me a tenner. But I'm not that hardfaced.

Be blunt OP. It's your money. Ask for it back. Tell her you need it today. Tell her you'll go with her to a cash machine. If she really is genuinely skint and is honest with you instead of fobbing you off then tell her you want it on payday, no excuses.

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Leogirl73 · 15/01/2014 20:30

Thanks for all your replies , agree with all of u really , just to say she doesn't seem to be skint as she's just booked a holiday to Mexico and we were paid a week ago so baffles me ??? I don't really see her that often as she the opposite days to me , I know she will be making me out to be a pain for asking for it though ! Nightmare !

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Biedronka · 15/01/2014 20:49

With that further info OP - fuck it, I'd demand it back now.

You're not a pain, it's your money regardless of how little/much it is.

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Leogirl73 · 15/01/2014 21:03

I'm not a very confrontational person , but at the same time don't like to be treated like a mug ! I wouldn't do this to someone and well to put it bluntly some people just have very low morals ! Thanks once again for all your replies xx

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LineRunner · 15/01/2014 21:07

Why does your boss need a £60 Christmas present?

But yes, she owes you a tenner.

Alisvolatpropiis · 15/01/2014 21:08

Just ask her if she can give it to you on payday.

If she doesn't then there's a lesson learnt and don't agree to sub her again.

MichaelFinnigan · 15/01/2014 21:09

Invite her out for lunch. Make her pay. Even Stevens

NearTheWindmill · 15/01/2014 21:15

I would suck it up but next time there's a collection or lunch or round I'd just say, "oh you still owe me that tenner, can you sort it please - in front of everyone :)

LineRunner · 15/01/2014 21:17

But why are these collections, if people don't want to pay??

lifesgreatquestions · 15/01/2014 21:26

I'd assume she didn't want to contribute, and I'd sympathise with that, but this would irritate me, it's disrespectful. I have a colleague friend who occasional borrows lunch money, she doesn't return it unless I ask for it. Reader, I've been a mug three times, no more. My friends is lovely but shit with money/organisation and she will have no more from me. It's so uncomfortable asking for money to be returned. Good luck whatever you decide op.

LineRunner · 15/01/2014 21:42

I think people should be able to say No to collections at work.

moppymarker · 15/01/2014 21:45

tell her to watch ' the pursuit of happyness'

there is a bit in there where the hero is asked to give his boss $5 for a taxi, but thats all he has, and it means he has to ride the night train rather than go in a shelter that night

some people just dont get that its not JUST £10

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Leogirl73 · 16/01/2014 09:06

Hi linerunner we always put £10 in each for the boss as he always buys us very generous gifts and he is a really good boss ! The person who owes me the money does have the money if she was skint I would just forget it , she was asked did she want to put in the collection there's 2 in our office who always refuse so she could have quite simply said no thanks I don't want to put in , I have learnt my lesson will not give her the chance again . Thanks for your replies xxx

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YourMaNoBraBackOfMyCar · 16/01/2014 09:45

A customer who drinks in the bar I work at tapped me for a tenner back in September. He promised to give it back on the next shift he saw me. He never did. He's gone from being there most evenings to not being in for months on end. At least he can't ever ask me for money ever again. Up til then it was a cigarette here and a £1 there. That tenner has saved me loads in the long run. The one time I saw him (a shift I covered for someone and he clearly wasn't expecting to see me) he mumbled something about having no cash on him. I smiled brightly and said "keep it! You obviously need it more than me." He looked so embarrassed in front of his friends. It made him look pathetic asking the barmaid to sub him.

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