AIBU to have googled new sexual partner?

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After years of being single and pretty much celibate I recently entered into a sexual relationship with a new work colleague. We have been seeing each other on a casual basis for about 2 months. We are both single and just enjoying the ride.

The other night I was bored and decided to google his name. I told him I had done this and reference was made to it at work. The general consensus seemed to be that googling someone is total psycho behavior and a massive red flag to a guy.

I am intrigued to know how many of you have googled partners before and whether it is to be considered psycho or sensible?

Very sensible! You never know.. I recently discovered something about a friend on the internet quite by accident!

Of course people do that...but they don't tell the person that they did it!!!

That's perfectly normal IMO... The Internet wasn't a big deal when I met DH but if it was now then I'd definitely google him!

Perfectly normal. I google new colleagues fgs and am not a stalker. I am nosey

I think it's not only very reasonable, it's also very wise of you.

If you think you are safe just because you you googled someone you are sadly deluded.

It's 2014. It's not like you're running a background check on him. I do consider it sensible. I googled my partner when we started dating; I'd only 'met' him on the internet, it's always nice to see they don't have a secret wife and kids.

It's not even invasive. The things that will come up are public facebook profiles, maybe a recognition for something. I find it hard to believe the vast majority of people dating these days wouldn't. I think it's more likely people don't like to admit it, which is rather silly.

Why wouldn't you?! Just don't tell them.

Perfectly normal, I'd assume someone would google a new partner.
I find it strange that people could be shocked at this in 2014.

do it, but don't mention it to anyone =)

My dh has the same name as a rap star, totally pointless googling him!

If I was a modern dater, I would definitely google. It's human nature.

normal and sensible. I googled DH when we first met - don't think I told him though. would assume most people do this

Oh please, I Google my DP regularly, more through boredom than anything else i'm really a creep stalker wifey and its funny the things people forget about or think no longer exist.

My DD1 did this with her latest BF at christmas and although I found it a bit wierd, as a mother I was strangely relieved to find that he seemed an ok guy - I admit, after initially questionning her I found myself looking over her shoulder!! I guess it's something you will want to keep to yourself though as he would probably see it as stalking and pretty dodgy behaviour.

Perfectly sensible. I googled DH and also went through his computer when he was out when we first got together. He was living with his parents in his 30s, and the police came round once early in our relationship to ask him about a female friend of his who had gone missing - I think I would have been stupid not to have checked him out!

I'd rather be a bit stalkery than regretting it later. I fully expect he did the same to me.

Perfectly normal, and sensible behavior, I think.