My pfb is being bullied :(

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So my pfb told me yesterday that she had been smacked by a girl who has been on and off bulling her since last year. One min there Fridays, next she's pushing dd around. Dd is very quiet and takes most things :(.

Yesterday she was very upset.

I rang school up and they told me to tell DD to tell the dinner lady next time, dd told me she had.

I went into school this morning, and before I even opened my gob the headteacher spoke to us like rubbish.

Ht "I'm sorting"
Me "oh okay, just letti you know she did tell the dinner lady"
Ht "well she didn't tell me when she had chance yday"

Ht to dd

"You know how precious my time is, so if I speak to you I expect you to tell me the truth and everything, I don't have time to waste questioning everyone, do you understand? I will be having a long talk with you and other girl"

Then she left.

I do not get on headteacher at all.

So I left the reception really quiet upset.

Just got home and had a phone call from ht, telling me more of less she doesn't believe dd, as she didn't tell her yesterday. And other girl has said she didn't do it.

My dd is 5 :(

by MNHQ

compos - I advocate doing what I suggested. In the interim though, temporary withdrawal from school or changing school completely could be considered, if the risk is deemed great enough. Very far from ideal, but getting the child or yourself into much more trouble is really not going to help.

Actually, without knowing any more details, I would be more worried by the HTs attitude than the bullying. Bullying is unpleasant but not uncommon. However, that HT sounds an absolute cow!

Frankly I would be trying to find another school for my DD if that is possible.

Agree about the head. She sounds like a complete bully herself.

Send a detailed and dispassionate letter to the governors.

it really pisses me off that some schools pay lip service to anti-bullying week with competitions and assemblies and 'tell someone' advice and then when children do report it they are treated like they are the problem and treated like they deserve it!

The head needs to learn how to talk to people with respect.

Email the governors or write them a letter and explain exactly what has happened. Can you get someone to read it over for you before you do?

OP you should document everything you have mentioned on here and anything else that has happened. Try to include dates and names of anyone else present. Send a letter with a copy of these things to the governors.

Role play with DD what she should do if this girl does anything again as revenge says shouting very loudly "stop hitting me" or "get away from me" make sure she tells an adult every time.

Is there another school your dd could go to?

I don't really want to move her, as she is very close to her best friend, and they both need each other really.

Other things this girl does is try and get dd to run away from her BFF, or nicks her bffs seat so she can't sit next to her :(

I can't believe that a HT would speak so harshly to a 5 year old, in all my years of dealing with teaching staff I have never experienced any of my children being spoken to in this way and I'd be livid if someone in authority spoke to any of mine in this bullying, controlling manner. From your account, she sounds like a vile woman who is definitely in the wrong job.

After this I am even more worried about my son going to school next year. He has gdd and slight autism, and I am so scared she will talk and treat him bad. He has a very short temper :(

I think you need to write to the governors. The school have 'a duty of care' and are 'loco parentis' in your absence. They are failing in their duty.