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To be a bit sad that my mum doesn't want to cheer me on at Race for Life?

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peeveddoesntcoverit · 14/01/2014 21:39

So I'm running the race for life later this year, and my mum has basically said that she doesn't want to come and cheer me on.
I've done it twice before and to give her credit, she has come before - with my dad and dp - to cheer me on.

But she's always complained that she's had to pay to park at the venue - so to make up for this I've never asked her to sponsor me - and has hinted that it's boring to stand and watch as she only sees me once.

So this year I've signed up again and said we'll go for a picnic afterwards to make a day of it. Again, I haven't asked her to sponsor me or to do anything. It's only a 5k, so I'm not running for long tbh.

I know I'm definitely running to raise money for the charity and not to show off, but seeing my family always spurs me on when I'm tired. So aibu to be a bit sad she won't come and support me?

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Sammie101 · 14/01/2014 21:47

In all honesty I can think of many things I'd rather do, so I can see where she is coming from! Hmm But I do understand about family support spurring you on. Plus it only takes up a short amount of her day. Perhaps ask for a few quid sponsor money if she definitely won't come?

IwishIwasmoreorganised · 14/01/2014 21:49

I think YABU. The venues are always heaving. If she manages to see you once she'll have done well.

Just let her stay at home and sponsor you instead, after all you're doing it for a good cause and they'll get even more that way.

volestair · 14/01/2014 21:53

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peeveddoesntcoverit · 14/01/2014 21:54

Fair enough, IABU. Smile

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drbonnieblossman · 14/01/2014 21:58

yanbu. I couldn't imagine my family not being there, even if they saw me for only 5 seconds. Isn't that what families are about?

parakeet · 14/01/2014 21:59

YABU. All you are doing is running 5k. What a fuss.

WorraLiberty · 14/01/2014 22:02

I can understand why you might want her there, but she's been twice before and I assume your DP will be there?

Might be time to let her off the hook Smile

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flipchart · 14/01/2014 22:03

YABU.

I wouldn't expect anyone to watch me, not even DH.
It's something I would do with my mates.

Think you are being a bit daft to feel sad.

50pchair · 14/01/2014 22:04

YANBU to want her to want to share your achievement and the fact that it's a nice thing to do. I loved seeing my sister do it and find these events emotional (it's the 'I'm running for...' Signs that get me). I don't care if it is partly selfish as well - it's a great cause and you're not obliged to give.

I am having the opposite problem...I'm doing a dancing show as part of my hobby. I don't want my family to come (I'm embarrassed). They have other ideas. I'm 32!

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peeveddoesntcoverit · 14/01/2014 22:05

OK, fair enough, I'll just send her a photo afterwards. With a donation form! Wink

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Nanny0gg · 14/01/2014 22:06

I've watched the Race for Life and tbh it was pretty boring. Especially as I watched it on my own.

YABU.

redskyatnight · 14/01/2014 22:07

If you've done it twice before it will have lost it's novelty value - and not like it is a particular challenge/achievement for you. If she did come and watch she'll see you for about 2 seconds as you pass. Maybe suggest meeting at the end so she can celebrate with you?

Sallystyle · 14/01/2014 22:07

I didn't even go to watch my kids do it last year Hmm

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Lozislovely · 14/01/2014 22:09

YANBU to want your mum to see you run it. My mum is over 150 miles away from me, but if she were closer I'd want her there unless I had support from DH (I'm separated so it doesn't count anymore) or DS.

Jeez peopl, 5k is a lot for some of us hobby runners!!!!

whois · 14/01/2014 22:51

It's a 5k race. You've done it twice before. You older than age 7.

Why oh why would your mum want to come and watch you again? You know she doesn't like it.

RudyMentary · 14/01/2014 22:57

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WhenWhyWhere · 14/01/2014 22:59

Sorry but it's another YABU from me. Having done my share of watching my kids play various sports I don't think I will be enthusiastic about watching them when they are adults Confused

I like Race for Life though. It's not like some running events that are organized by private for-profit companies. Sad.

Sirzy · 14/01/2014 22:59

Glad you have seen yabu!

I am doing the Manchester 10k in May and have told my family they don't have to come and watch. Would be pretty boring! They have decided to use it as an excuse to go shopping and meet me after to carry me home

Suttonmum1 · 14/01/2014 23:01

It's not a sports day is it?

thenightsky · 14/01/2014 23:04

YABU. Runs like that are not a spectator sport really.

drbonnieblossman · 14/01/2014 23:32

the result of which is raising money. quite worthy of fuss imo.

Chippednailvarnish · 14/01/2014 23:37

Thinking about the triathlons, marathons, half marathons, 10k races and 5k races I have stood on route for and seen DH sweating for 10 seconds before he ran off YABVU.

Dull isn't the word.

Joules68 · 14/01/2014 23:45

Op... Mix it up a bit and go for the 10k?

Actually, thinking about this, could your mum be shying away from it as she feels she's getting older and may have to face cancer herself sometime? It can be a sobering thought? Maybe she's had a 'scare' she doesn't want reminding of?

Just a thought

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