To think this is a bit weird

[moobaloo]

My Mil wanted to buy me some things for our new arrival in May, which we have just found out is a boy. We decided to shop together and went out to see a lady who was selling some boys clothes and bits and bobs near us.

There was a huge pile of clothes and my mil said to go through and pick anything I wanted and she would buy it for me, so I went through logically picking out the best things, the things I hadn't already got enough of and would need and so on. Got some lovely things and I'm very grateful to mil for buying them for us and being so lovely and interested and finding the things in the first place. I also thought it was lovely she let me pick what I wanted instead of forcing things on me.

So I don't want to sound ungrateful, but I've found out she's gone and bought the rest of the stuff as well. All of it. Essentially all the stuff I didn't want

Why? I don't need it. What was the point in getting me to choose things in the first place?

I really don't want to sound ungrateful, but is this odd or is it just me?

Maybe she thought whatever you didn't pick then she would just get it for you, or that you may have wanted all of it but couldn't say so. I would just gratefully accept the kind gesture and not dwell on it too much.

Perhaps she thought you were being tactful and not choosing it all thinking that it may have cost her too much for the lot? Apart from that I have no idea and especially if you voiced out loud that you didn't need some of it or that some were duplicates etc - did you say out loud that you didn't need some of it?

Is a bit odd, I do agree

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Perhaps she thought you really wanted all of it and were too polite to say? Just use what you want to, put the other stuff away, then sell it on/freecycle it later [after it would have been done with so you don't upset her by getting rid right away!]

Maybe she's planning to keep some stuff at hers so let you choose the stuff you wanted for yours? Dmil has a bag of clothes at hers which makes it easier if I am going there rather than carting spares around and for if they stay over.