AIBU to not wear my wedding ring...

[WaffilyVersatile]

We got married last year (together for nearly 12 years) and neither of us have got used to wearing the rings - neither of us wear any other jewellery. I stopped wearing mine first (out of fear of losing it as I kept having to take it off for work) and then my OH asked me how I would feel if he stopped wearing his too because it still felt weird. I didn't mind at all so for around 5months the rings have lived on our bedside tables in their boxes.

I don't see the issue but several people have commented on how irregular it is and 1 even said that we may as well have not bothered getting married!!

Is it BU to believe that marriage is about more than jewellery or are we weird?

[Laska42]

We dont even have any .. its not a requirement to getting married.. it did make the service rather short though ( registry office ) people do ask though,.. but I dont wear any rings ever , nor he. just dont like them
...20yrs together, 7 married ..

[Laska42]

.. oh and I haven't taken his name either.. but we are and do feel very married .... (strange how people find it hard to believe sometimes)..

[JRmumma]

I wear a wedding ring when i remember to put it on. I cant sleep in it so often forget to wear it but its not a problem.

I never had an engagement ring though as i don't wear any jewellery (except now my wedding ring) and DH did an unplanned proposal so hadn't bought a ring. Afterwards we decided that i didn't need or want an engagement ring as a) i wouldn't wear it, or at least enjoy wearing it, and b) id rather use that money for something we actually wanted or needed.

People couldn't get their head around me not wanting a ring and used to come up with silly things like 'well maybe he can buy you one in a few years'. Well that wont be an engagement ring then will it! Most people assumed that we couldn't afford a ring and couldn't see that jewellery just isn't a priority for me, whether we had the cash or not.

[liquidstate]

I never wear mine and nor does my DH - mainly due to work but also because I just dont like the hassle of having one. Like you they sit in boxes on the bedside table and get put on for special occasions.

[JingleBrains]

Of course YANBU

I'm surprised at how much people notice/care/comment on this.

I have chosen (for my second marriage) a wedding ring that I really really like, it's a tiny bit different, enough to make it special for me. I enjoy wearing it, still find it lovely! DH chose a plain one and is happy to wear it when he remembers it but tbh neither of us is too fussed

I lost some weight recently and had to move my wedding ring to the middle finger - MIL noticed straight away and asked why am I not wearing my wedding ring in a rather accusing tone

[MaxPepsi]

Each to their own.

I personally never take mine off and most of my friends think I'm the weird one.

I feel undressed without it, but as I feel undressed without earrings and my watch that doesn't really meanmuch!

[MakingEveryDayCount]

We've been married nearly 12 years and never wear ours either. I always get a face like this if I mention it in RL
Erm, why?! It's just a piece of jewellery. You're not suddenly 'less married' just because you're not wearing a ring on your finger!

[ThoughSheBeButLittle]

My DH has never had one and I tend not to wear one as my job involves a lot of handwashing and it makes my finger peely underneath. I like wearing my engagement ring when I'm not at work as it's pretty but that sometimes stays in it's box for months at a time too.

Neither of us are bothered either way, as you say it's a marriage not a jewellery display.

[sykadelic15]

I wear my set (wedding, engagement and eternity) for work and when out and about but otherwise it's off.

My husband works with his hands and can't wear it. He'll wear it out on special occasions but it's also slightly too big. He's sentimental about it too, won't take it in to warranty it out for a size change because of the material they will destroy it and make another one... he doesn't want that.