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Ds took my debit card and bought £90 download games

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LydiasLunch · 14/01/2014 08:13

Just that really. He is 9 and has Aspergers so I'm trying to convince myself that he really didn't know how bad it was. He is very sorry that he has been found out and promises not to do it again. £90 ffs. That's a lot of money to us.

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LottieJenkins · 14/01/2014 08:18

My ds2 has AS.......... I can understand how cross you must be. Maybe hide your purse where he cant find it now?

LIZS · 14/01/2014 08:20

He's sorry he got found out not that he did it ?

MomsStiffler · 14/01/2014 08:20

Confiscate the equipment (Tablet, console) that he downloaded them onto & not let him use it for a suitable time period.

Set up a "repayment" chart where you can log how he "pays" the £90 off by helping out around the house.

Stick to your guns & he'll then work out how bad it was.....

Dawndonnaagain · 14/01/2014 08:22

Mine have AS. He he sorry for his actions or sorry that he has been found out as you have said? They really are different things and AS or not, consequences should follow if you don't want it happening again, as well as lots of discussions on how inappropriate his behaviour has been.

Dawndonnaagain · 14/01/2014 08:22

Is he apologies.

DaddyPigsMistress · 14/01/2014 08:24

He would loose phones/consoles for awhile and pocket money till it was paid back.£90 is alot of money to steal

wonderingsoul · 14/01/2014 08:24

what console was this on?

and importantly when was it done? you could try emailing them telling the whats happened, that he has as. you may find that they will refund you the money.

was it on google play or microssoft? if its google play your are more likely to get it back x

schokolade · 14/01/2014 08:40

Good idea wonderingsoul. And if they can't refund it, perhaps they can tell you how to block downloads needing a credit card to prevent future issues?

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LydiasLunch · 14/01/2014 09:11

It was through his wii u.

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wonderingsoul · 14/01/2014 09:18

i would email intendo and explain, you have nothing to lose. i have found through experance and other peoples stories that 90 percent of the time they will refund.
the quicker you get in touch, and dont let him play thouse games the better.

ds1 friend and he download £99 worth of something in a google play game.. google play refunded the amount without questioning it. so i know how infurating it is, i thought i had secured it enough.. obviousely not.

i would also make him earn it mback if its a possbity?

SaucyJack · 14/01/2014 09:23

I'd also delete the downloads. I know on the face of it it'd seem like an even bigger waste of money....... but it'll be more likely to stop him again if he knows he won't get to keep them anyway.

wineoclocktimeyet · 14/01/2014 09:34

I agree with contacting them, a friends DS did the same and as he is a minor (and was using your card without permission), the company refunded the money. (He doesn't have any additional needs, was just being a little so and so!)

IneedAsockamnesty · 14/01/2014 09:35

It is worth an email to Nintendo or an conversation with your bank he's only 9 so you don't need to worry about a swot team smashing through your windows Grin.

He very genuinely may have no comprehension that it was not the done thing it's how you deal with it now that can change that for the future. He may not even understand that the card is actual real money so it would be an idea to explain that to him, 2 of mine spent years thinking that they were magic cards that had no relation to real money at all (also thought the cash point was a strange gift system)

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LydiasLunch · 14/01/2014 09:52

Yes I will email nintendo and delete the two games. Thank you for calming me down. Has really shaken me that he would take my card.

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diddl · 14/01/2014 09:59

Do you not need a pin?

I'd be very cross at the getting it from my purse (assuming he did), let alone using it!

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LydiasLunch · 14/01/2014 10:00

Yes that's the point, I am very cross.

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diddl · 14/01/2014 10:04

Def delete the games.

Perhaps that is punishment enough if he really doesn't know how bad it is?

And make sure he knows that taking any amount of money-or indeed anything that isn't his without permission is wrong.

moldingsunbeams · 14/01/2014 10:05

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OddFodd · 14/01/2014 10:07

Agree with everyone else. Also put parental controls on your wii u so that you need a PIN to buy Nintendo credit

gamerchick · 14/01/2014 10:11

I would get in touch with Nintendo. They might help... unlike Microsoft who have a tough shit attitude.

AS or not.. I would go NUTS if any of mine took my card. They would lose the machine for a set time but I wouldn't tell them how long they would lose it for. Some things have to be drummed in.

SparklyTwinkleGlitter · 14/01/2014 10:19

I don't have a wii but an iPad.

My 4 yr old managed to purchase an ingame extra for a few quid. I only realised when I had an email from iTunes on my phone that made no sense to me. I emailed them to ask what was going on and they refunded me the money immediately and gave me instructions on how to block future purchases. I naively assumed he'd need my password to make purchases.

I was shocked to learn that after you've entered your iTunes password, they can purchase anything without needing to re-enter the password for up to five minutes unless you change the default settings.

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