To feel guilty for befriending a male?

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I have been with dp 7 years and we have 2 dcs, we are very much in love and happy. I started a new job last year and work very closely with a lovely man, some weeks we spend more time at work together than at home with our partners. We have gotten real close as friends, good friends and he really looked after me (our job is very physical) during my pregnancy. He is Much much older than me, he has kids roughly my age and there is absolutely no physical attraction or any other, yet i feel guilty for getting so close to him if that makes sense, i just need some perspective i think.

I would normally say a friendship between a man and a woman is fine, but the very fact you are feeling guilty says there is more to it.

But why would you feel guilty? I work mainly with men, some have become friends, but I don't feel guilty in the slightest. DH has met them, he's totally not bothered - unless you think you are developing feelings?

I am curious about why you feel guilty.
My DH had a very close woman friend when DD and I weren't even in the same country.
He was friends with her for a year till he left. He not only worked with her, he socialised with her at the weekends.
I think part of her attraction was her children. He really missed our DD.
I wasn't bothered in the slightest and I know her DH wasn't either.

Im not sure, but i think he may have feelings for me and i think i feel guilty because i would never. ever go there but being so close with him is maybe leading him on..... like seeing him out of work etc. Im not back at work until july so dont have to see him.... i think il.use these few months to put distance between us. I feel like an awful person.

Well, that's a different thing if you think he is falling in love with you, but there's no reason for guilt over the situation you first set out in your OP. One of my closest friends is a male colleague. For several years, both our partners lived in another country to our workplace, and we certainly saw considerably more of one another than of them. That's no longer the case, but it's still a close and valued friendship.

Its a bit shit because i value his friendship very much but it doesnt sit right.

That explains the guilt then! Yes, you would be right to put some distance between you, for both your sakes!

Being friends in itself isn't a problem...it depends on how you feel about him and how he feels about you...be careful!

I think i will just step back a bit, ty for replies

If it doesn't sit right, step back. Your gut instincts are usually pretty reliable on this front...