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To be panicking after just being followed...? 😳

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JodiA · 12/01/2014 14:43

I'm in a panic and shaking as I write this Hmm

I'd just been getting in my car, from doing some shopping and because I didn't close my door quick enough, this young dude in a brand new black Volvo speeds past me, snarls me and shouts something ... So as he passes, I flashed my lights at him (yes I do have road rage unfortunately) ...

Anyway, as I drive off and turn left to head home, he's opposite me at traffic lights, spots me and starts to reverse and follows me ... I literally thought he was going to drive right into me he's coming behind me that fast.

At this point, I grab my mobil and try to dial hubby as I'm close by house and freaking out that this guy is going to get out car to me and God knows what Confused

As I pull up outside house, he drives past me, gets halfway down road, realises it was me, and then does another u-turn right up back towards my house - he slows down but then as hubby comes out, drives off ...

Now I'm absolutely panicked that he will come back late tonight or something and put my window through! Irrational thinking maybe, but who the heck follows a girl on his own, just because I couldn't close my door quick enough and therefore slow him down ???

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3littlefrogs · 12/01/2014 14:45

Did you get his number?
I would report it to the police anyway.

lottieandmia · 12/01/2014 14:45

Report him to the police! This kind of behaviour is not acceptable in any situation. Nor is it normal..........Poor you.

Gruntfuttock · 12/01/2014 14:47

Very scary! What would he have done if your husband hadn't been there I wonder? The man must be deranged.

RevoltingPeasant · 12/01/2014 14:49

OP poor you, he sounds nuts. Mind you you shouldn't have flashed him. He was clearly a loon from having shouted at you, so being aggressive back probably wasn't the best idea. But still he is way in the wrong - agree you should report.

yellowknife · 12/01/2014 14:49

Call the police, but this is a good lesson in why you should never drive to your house if you are being followed. Drive to the police station instead.

RevoltingPeasant · 12/01/2014 14:50

Also don't want to scare you but he does know where you live now, so def report.

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JodiA · 12/01/2014 14:55

Thanks guys, and I know I should've driven to the Police Station, but the roads are really quiet and at one point there was just me and him on the road Hmm I was really scared to be honest. He only looked young too Blush

Would Police even entertain this though if I were to ring them? x

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Vintagebeads · 12/01/2014 14:55

do report it.I have been to the police over something like that and they do follow it up.

Rooners · 12/01/2014 15:06

There's a certain type of young (or old, or middle aged) guy out there who thinks he is right in every circumstance, and that women drivers deserve ridicule. I had one follow me once all the way along a road, flashing and beeping at me at VERY close range till I indicated to turn into a petrol station (with cctv) and then he undertook me on the pavement and buggered off.

This was all because he'd been about to pull out in front of me so I'd honked, to let him know I was there and said 'twit' through my closed window which he clearly thought was something worse Blush

and decided his pride could not take it
I was all set to prosecute as there were witnesses but I decided not to for fear of reprisal

I doubt you will have any problems moving forward now as he has seen you have a bloke at home - I imagine he just wanted to assert his superior maleness at you.

Have some sweet tea and don't worry. But let the coppers know if you have the car details etc.

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JodiA · 12/01/2014 15:26

Rooners - thankyou honey, and I'm glad I'm not the only one! What is wrong with these people? Shock

I can't stop looking out of my window though every time a car zooms past Hmm

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3littlefrogs · 12/01/2014 16:59

TBH I wouldn't know where to find a police station that was open round here (or a policeman for that matter), all the local ones are closed.

Starballbunny · 12/01/2014 17:05

Same here, I don't think we have a 24/7 police station for 13 miles, and I don't know where it is.

Roonders is un doutably right he's a bored dick and you'll never see him again.

LoveBeingCantThinkOfAName · 12/01/2014 17:07

And that is exactly what he wanted you to be thinking.

borninastorm · 12/01/2014 17:08

A similar thing happened to me once.

I live in a small village and this car pulled out from parking space in the high street without looking right in front me. I thought i recognised the car as one of the mum's from the school so I gestured in a "you're an idiot" kind of a way.

The car turned down a road then came up the other side (triangle like thing) behind me and followed me home.

I pulled into my drive, parked and as I got out the car he pulled up at my drive. He put his window down and began to shout at me for gesturing at him.

I shouted back at him, in my strongest Scottish accent to "fuck off". And he did. He just put his window up and drove away!

Never saw him again.

It's unlikely your follower'll be back. Typically men who follow you home cos you responded to their dickish behaviour are trying to intimidate you. They don't, normally, want to harm you.

If it'll make you feel safer report it. But don't worry too much about it, I doubt he'll be back. He's probably as much of a coward as mine was.

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JodiA · 12/01/2014 17:17

Thanks for the reassurance guys Smile

Ooh I think Mumsnet is my new obsession!! Wink

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