to love having a child but not like being a mam.

[Doodlekitty]

Disclaimer: I adore my Ds and am so pleased we have him.

But I really dont think I was prepared for this whole being a mam thing. Nobody told me I would suddenly be expected to know every answer from how does this car seat work to where is my shirt. How am I meant to know, they are not mine, why should I know?
And good lord the guilt! Dh (who is lovely and does a lot but needs to be prompted which drives me mad ( has taken ds to his Mums so he can go to the gym and I can have some time to myself. I had a quick bath (does not count as me time, I have a right to be clean) and have done an hours housework before sitting down to relax. But now I just feel guilty because theres washing upstairs I coukd be putting away.

Why does nobody tell you this when you are pregnant? I cant be the only person who feels like this.

Yes it is relentless.

this article is going round Facebook today and certainly suggests you aren't alone.

I think being a parent is like anything one week everythings fantastic then next week you feel like punching everyone in the face.

Posted to early. I dont think Im like most women though I dont get the guilt. The kids are away? Have some drinks, lie around, have sex etc. Screw the washing up

You forgot to mention the fear, too, that something will happen to them. It never goes away, as far as I can see. No wonder mothers get depressed.

OT, but does that article give anyone else the rage? The author made a valid point that parents should be able to talk openly about their feelings BUT:
"The British Army would not allow its soldiers to exist for long periods under the sort of psychological trauma and sleep-deprivation that new mothers are expected to endure, unaided, cheerfully."
She's joking right? Even if she is it's an offensive joke. I'm sure soldiers would rather be home with their babies than in a bloody war zone! I also feel that she was quite dismissive of mental health problems.

Agree with the article.
It really really pisses me off.
Most gp's and any other professional I have ever met start off by telling me that I am depressed.
Then they admit that I am not.
I have chronic diabetes, fatigue, an Aspergers ds1 and a ds2 who didn't sleep but cried almost continually from 6pm to 4am fir the first few months.
My current gp , my dh, my mum , and my best friend all think i cope 'admirably, in difficult circumstances'.

This recent thing about painting every thing as 'depression'
Makes me f**king furious.