To be sick of people trying to push men on me?

[heypixie]

I have a group of "friends" (I've put friends into speech marks because they're not really friends as such, at least not close ones, more acquaintances that I see regularly) who are always trying to hook me up with various men. Whenever I develop a close friendship with a man they always insist I must fancy him and go on about it all the time, claiming I'm in denial. This has happened with several different men over the years.

The thing is though, I don't actually fancy any of these men. As a matter of fact, I'm a lesbian but I haven't actually come out yet. I know I probably should as maybe it would get people to back off a bit but I'm really not ready to come out yet.

These men were nothing more than close friends, I didn't feel anything for them beyond that but they always tried to twist it into something more. I could actually laugh about it at first and see the funny side but after a while it did get annoying. I mean whenever I'm with them a good portion of the conversation is about how I obviously fancy such and such and it is tiring having to explain constantly that I don't, leave me alone.

I have asked them to back off but they seem to think it's a joke and continue anyways.

Seriously, it must be something about me because they never do it to anyone else.

I have a similar problem with 2 of my friends. They insist that I shouldn't be single and would have a happier life if I had a man.

I am not gay and do fancy men, but love my single life (with DS). Had enough problems with my ExH thanks.

In the end I just laughed and said 'I am happy single and laughing at you - moaning about the husbands you have, that are supposed to make you happy - why would I want one of those'

We are still good friends, but they have stopped trying to convince me a need a man.

I have similar option. I can't look in the general direction of a penis owner without been told I'm fancy them or I get texts about how they have found me a man etc.

I'm not gay but it is annoying. No reason for you to come out til you are ready. Just tell them it's not funny and you are fed up of it.

Or when they mention a males name or look in the direction of one then you do the same to them

Yes it really royally pissed me off. So did single (and married!) men trying to (metaphorically) muscle their way into my life and bed. I was happily single at the time.

I'll never live in that area of the UK again, men especially took a single female as a challenge.

"fuck off and take no for an answer"

The thing is though, one of these men actually did like me as more than friends and these people actually managed to convince him that I felt the same way so he asked me out. Obviously I had to turn him down but the thing is though he's a very sensitive man so I didn't want to hurt his feelings and of course I did .

Then one of the pushier girls in the groups later ended up getting angry at me for turning him down.