to be sad that DS hasn't phoned me on my birthday?

[EloiseintheSun]

DS 1, 21 years old and at Uni, is an affectionate and generally pretty caring son - though he can (like any of us, I guess) be very thoughtless.

Anyway, AIBU to be a smidgeon sad (actually a bit more than that) that he hasn't phoned me to wish me Happy Birthday (or texted or left behind so much as a card when he was taken back to Uni a few days ago)?

YANBU. Does he normally acknowledge it? Did anyone remind him?

YANBU have a Happy Birthday from me

YANBU.

YANBU Mine forgot Mother's Day last year (was in 6th form).

I was hurt.

No, you are not being unreasonable to be sad and I bet he's just forgot and will kick himself when he sobers up wakes up tomorrow. Bloody kids, who'd have em

Many happy returns Eloise . If you can't get a call off your son, what is better than birthday wishes from a stranger on the Internet

Thanks, all - and especially for the kind birthday wishes! DS knew alright. Looking at it charitably, I'd say he may have been preoccupied with exams revision. Less charitably, he couldn't be bothered.

I bet he kept meaning to do something about it and it just kept slipping his mind. 21 a terrible age for that sort of thing. Remind him of it the next several times he brings laundry round. . .

Happy Birthday! Hope you had a lovely day.

I would be upset if DD didn't remember my birthday at all. Maybe you should not remember his?

Happy birthdays Louise. My DB is a teacher and he always rings DM from school and gets one of his classes to wish her happy birthday. Yesterday it was his Gcse biology group. This started years and years ago because he forgot it one year.....

YANBU OP. Many happy returns. I have no idea why a son/daughter would forget your birthday but I hope you have a bloody good un xx

Ah my brother is 31, married and travels to exotic places with work, he still has to be reminded about birthdays, he genuinely forgets.

If he's anything like me at 21 he probably has no clue what day of the week it is - I was always forgetting birthdays - my mum used to call me a few days before to remind me!

Tell him he's out of the Will - and happy birthday!

Why don't you give him a ring - he'll probably still be up :) if not - sweet revenge. Happy Birthday (very sure he doesn't mean to forget).

I sometimes remember birthdays a week or so before, think I must get a card and send it off in a few days, then forget until the day and it's late. So I do remember birthdays but just not at the right time.

My brothers are pretty patchy with my birthday too. I don't mind as long as someone remembers. If I didn't get any cards arriving on time I'd be a bit upset I suppose.

What with that new-fangled Google Calendar and its handy reminders, there's NO EXCUSE for forgetting birthdays.

YANBU and Happy Birthday from me! Not attempting to excuse your son but 21...at university...maybe a bit of stereotypical youthful selfishness is at play rather than plain old rudeness.