Aibu to quit my job?

[penguinsforever]

I've been working at a company for three years. I'm very conscientious and hard working. I'm not good at office politics and however much I try to be more assertive I'm quite a shy person.

In recent months I made some informal complaints to my then managers manager, explaining issues with stress, pressure and unfair behaviour towards me, for example asking me to complete a report in one day where a co worker would be given several days. I had numerous examples of this. The result of my complaint was that I was moved to a different team. However, my stress continues as colleagues often don't pull their weight still and the buck always stops with me, they know I'm conscientious and so seem to take advantage of it.

There are a few nice people where I work but on the whole they are manipulative and unprofessional, often bullying.

If I resign I won't easily get a job elsewhere as I only work part time school hours and the pay is good. I could afford to resign though money would be tight. I don't like to be beaten by bullies but I know going to HR would be pointless, I don't want to be signed off again by doctor and wonder Aibu to think Health comes first and some workplaces are just rotten and unethical and it's better to just leave than keep fighting a losing battle?

Well it depends on how tight things would be financially - would it mean cutting back on luxuries or would it mean struggling to pay the bills?

And how bad are things in your new team? Other colleagues not pulling their weight is a pretty universal complaint, IME. Are you actually being bullied in your view team or is it that are you still angry about your experience in your old team and generally pissed off?

Do you have a partner? If so what's their view, as it will obviously have an impact on them and your children if you quit.

New team, not view team.

Personally, I would make the complaints formal before I quit. Possibly ask for a stress questionnaire and risk assessment to be completed and put it all on that if you don't want to go to grievance.

At least then you will know you have fully explored your options before resignation.

Don't go without finding another job first. From a personal development point of view, you may need to attend a course on how to be more assertive. If you decided to leave your job you could claim constructive dismissal but if you did this you would need evidence to back your claims up e.g emails, any other written correspondence relating to the issues. Make notes of instances including the date and situation that occurred. Be aware though that there in now a cost to bring a case to an employment tribunal. I think it's about £250 or something close to that figure and if you were to resign you may not be entitled to claim benefits as you have given your job up. It's all stuff to think about. At least the company tried to solve this issue by moving you to a different team. Maybe it's the culture of the company you work for which you can not change. Personally I would stay until I could find something else. I know this is easier said than done.

Don't take this the wrong way, but even if you do get another job the problem will still be there.

I think you would benefit on a course to be more assertive.

If you are in charge of a team, you know what to do. Verbal warnings, written warnings and arranging additional training. You need to assert these.

Take charge and stop overthinking about these assholes who are forcing you out of a job.

op - I'm having a horrible time at work at the moment too. It's really hard to get a job when you've left one, so I'm trying to hang in there. Can you focus on the good money and keep an eye open for other roles?

Thanks so much for the replies. The trouble is that no matter how unprofessional some colleagues are and how they make my life difficult, they never get in troublefor it. The new team is better, but you're right, I'm still bitter about my former team. I'm hoping to get pregnant soon, so it's probably worth staying as then I wouldn't have a gap in my CV iyswim.

It's just hard not to get stressed.