What would you say

[Hithere123]

This may seem a strange none but bare with me...my not so DH left me after Xmas as he has been seeing someone else and is totally infatuated by her dispute the fact u am 25 weeks with our planned 3rd child. He has said things are progressing and he is basically living with her and wants to introduce her to my dc 6 and 20 months). I have said to him that I want to talk with her. Don't ask me why I just feel the need to do so. I suppose to confirm with her what me and h have agreed in terms of what will happen when baby is born and that I don't want any trouble. What would you say to a potential new gf to your ex if you had the chance. I just want to say I don't feel any an animosity toward her dispute her being the ow just really want to make sure she knows where she stands re my children.

"you're welcome to him love"

and then walk away

Lol! I know I know! I'm just trying to put a cap on her being a bitch about him coming round to see the baby after born. I'm worried he's not going to be clear with what we have agreed (him to come round 3 times a week until in ready to let go) and would feel happy to confirm this with her. Think maybe I'm being a bit precious!?

Why bother? She could well say 'yes' to your face and do the complete opposite once she knows what it is you want.

No, I think you're being very reasonable. I think when you do speak to her just keep it factual and about the children. She will be more likely to listen to you if she doesn't feel attacked (even though she would totally deserve it). Just talk about the kids and new baby's needs.

I hope it goes well for you, you're a bloody saint to be dealing with it all so amicably.

My ExH left me three weeks before Christmas and once I found out about the troll thing OW a while later, insisted he should be able to introduce our 8 year old DD to her.

I told him that they according to him had not been together long enough.

I refused until she had met me!

They eventually did get my DD to meet her, but in my time and on my terms. It is very early days for you and your, very young, DC!

Take your time!

I would meet Her if I was you just to see who was going to be around my children, especially as they are so young. she ma well be very nice and a at least then you will have peace of mind when they are with their dad.